A masochist’s rules must be firm, but their punishment must be creative. Masochists enjoy pain, so the punishments they receive may backfire unless they are unique and cleverly crafted.
To effectively punish a masochist, you need to be creative. Instead of physical punishments, try an alternate approach such as denying them pleasurable activities, solitary confinement, teasing, ignoring pleas, ice water baths, special dinners of food they hate, and restricting social activities.
These punishments should provide appropriate discipline while remaining suitable for your masochistic submissive. Read on to discover how to use each of these punishment methods effectively.
What is a BDSM Masochist, and Why Is It Hard to Punish Them?
A BDSM masochist enjoys receiving physical or psychological pain and humiliation, often as part of a role-play or power exchange. Learn more about other masochist signs you didn’t know about here.
So why is it so hard to punish them? The simple answer is that physical punishments that may result in pain will not work in this situation.
A masochist finds pleasure in suffering rather than recoiling in fear or feeling pain or distress. Therefore, giving them physical punishment that may cause pain could cause them to enjoy the experience!
So, what does the successful punishment of masochists look like? Keep reading to find out.
How to Punish Masochists: 7 Effective Ideas
Rather than using physical punishments, it’s best to try psychological or emotional punishments. These punishments should focus on depriving the masochist of activities and pleasurable experiences, such as the ability to use their toys and the freedom to explore their fantasies with a partner. Here are 7 BDSM punishments for a masochist:
1. Deny Them Pleasures
If a BDSM masochist has been naughty and it’s time for punishment, a fun and effective way to do it is to deny them the pleasures they have grown accustomed. Whether it’s taking away their pleasure toys, cutting off entertainment, or even limiting access to online activities they love – denying them these things can make for an interesting form of punishment. In addition, it would send a message that their bad behavior won’t be accepted or rewarded.
2. Solitary Confinement
If their misbehavior is serious, why not try solitary confinement? Locking your masochist in a secure area (like the bathroom, for example) or putting them in a corner (use the wall slave position) could be a great way to teach them a lesson. They won’t be able to communicate or interact, after all, so they’ll have to take the time to reflect on their wrongdoings while they’re alone. Of course, this isn’t suitable for every situation, but if their offense warrants more than a simple pleasures denial, this could be a great option!
3. Tease
Watching your anticipation and excitement grow while teasing you with the thought of pain and then suddenly taking it away as if you hadn’t even asked for it? Now that’s a punishment a masochist won’t soon forget! Offering the gratification and then taking it away can be a fun way to get creative with punishing a masochist, giving them a taste of what they crave and then leaving them craving even more.
4. Ignoring their pleas
Punishing a masochist can be tricky, but there is one way to get their attention and have them begging for more: ignoring their pleas. Imagine the masochist becoming ever so daring in their requests for attention – only for them to be shut down entirely and soundly, leaving them pining for your attention. Refuse to engage in pleasure-oriented activities with the masochist; this renders them unable to get any satisfaction from their desires and teaches them that misbehaving is not the way to gain your focus.
5. Ice water bath
Immersing the naughty masochist in an icy-cold water bath might be the perfect punishment. Sure, they may enjoy pain, but feeling the freezing waters against their bare skin is entirely different, and it is bound to do the trick in correcting their bad behavior. Administering a few ice cubes wouldn’t be so bad to ensure the message has been received!
6. Special dinner of food they hate
Sometimes the best way to punish a masochist is by giving them something they don’t want; in this case, it may be a special dinner of food they hate. The goal here is that masochists would be so displeased with what they’re eating that they would recognize how bad their behavior was and thus correct it. The result? Cleaner and better behavior! Plus, you get the added pleasure of watching someone you care about suffer (for a good course).
7. Restrict social activities
With a mischievous twinkle in their eye and an evil smirk, punishing a BDSM masochist by restricting their social activities could be quite a feat. Restricting their social activities, such as going out with friends and interacting with their peers, would teach them a lesson! Though it may seem simple, making time with their friends scarce often causes more emotional and mental strain than physical punishment does.
Please note: Physical punishment isn’t always effective in behavior correction as it can lead to guilt, hiding, and shame, even though BDSM practitioners respond more positively to physical punishments than the general population. That means that there’s a benefit of more successful behavior correction for your masochist when you leverage the above punishment ideas.
Learn more about the dark side of punishment in our detailed article here.
Helpful Tips When Punishing a Masochist
Ready to level up your disciplining of your masochistic playmate? Here are some helpful tips to keep in mind!
- Take the time to learn what your playmate finds pleasurable. The punishment should not be connected to anything they find enjoyable, as it defeats the purpose of the punishment and would be considered more as a funishment.
- Remember to address the underlying cause of the punishment. It won’t be effective if you’re punishing just to see your masochist suffer. Instead, figure out why it was undesired behavior in the first place and address that!
- Don’t take your partner’s masochism as a sign they accept whatever punishment you dish out without question. Exaggerating the punishment can cause distress and pain that is too much to bear.
- Communicate forthrightly. Tell them exactly why they are being punished and the consequences. If you’re ambiguous, the punishment could get lost in translation, and the desired outcome won’t be achieved.
- Never forget that punishments for your masochist should fit the deed. If your partner made a minor mistake, correcting them with a minor penalty will deliver the lesson more effectively than harsher punishments.
- Taking all the above-mentioned in mind, summarize the punishments in a BDSM contract. Then, as a result of knowing your sub, good communication between you, and clear agreement about the rules to be kept and the consequences, put it in writing in a BDSM contract. Find out more in our dedicated article about BDSM contracts.
Masochists: Retribution Awaits
All masochists should be well aware that misbehavior will not be tolerated, and now with these 7 Ways to Punish a Masochist, the task of doling out discipline has become a lot easier. From denying them their pleasures to solitary confinement, teasing, and ice water baths, there’s sure to be a punishment that’ll make the masochist regret their choices and learn their lesson. Of course, it’s important to remember to be firm and consistent but also mindful of safety concerns, so your masochist can experience discipline but also enjoy a safe and healthy relationship.
Want to please a masochist instead? Check out our detailed article: How to Please a Masochist in Bed.
