We all know that discipline is essential for a healthy BDSM relationship – but it doesn’t have to be all about timeout or grounding! You can spice things up by incorporating sexual punishment into your usual discipline routine.
BDSM sexual punishments involve the Dom giving out consequences that are sexual when their submissive partner disobeys specific rules or expectations. From denying orgasms to double penetration to consented gang bang – there are plenty of creative sexual punishment ideas you can use on your naughty sub.
Escaping from the “same old” discipline routine isn’t as complicated as it seems. Learn more as we explore 10 unique sexual punishment ideas for BDSM.
What Exactly is Sexual Punishment in BDSM?
Sexual punishment is a type of BDSM punishment wherein the Dom would give out consequences that are sexual in nature when their submissive partner disobeys specific rules or expectations.
On the basic level, most sexual punishments may be pleasurable, but with increased intensity and duration, they perfectly act as punishers to make your naughty submissive mindful of their misbehavior.
Of course, all sexual punishments should be consensual. Your sub must be willing to do whatever you want them to and understand the punishments beforehand. Anything that involves force, pain, and humiliation should always be consensual.
10 Must-Try BDSM Sexual Punishments Ideas
Below are 10 unique sexual punishment ideas you can try with your naughty sub:
- No Orgasms
If your submissive partner loves forced orgasms as a reward when they are on their best behavior, why not punish them by denying them any orgasm when they are naughty or disobedient? Sexual pleasure is off the table until further notice, which will remind them to follow all rules. So don’t allow them an ounce of pleasure; they’ll follow suit next time.
- Constant Sex Position
What could be more punishing than staying in a particular sex position for hours? Make your naughty sub suffer, and give them no break by keeping the same spot! You can take a break while they remain in that very same spot, and this sexual punishment will be a surefire way to make your sub very conscious of their misbehavior. Are you looking for some inspiration? Go no further as to our detailed article on BDSM Slave Positions – Basic Guide and Sir M’s Playbook on Slave Positions.
- Chastity
BDSM chastity is one of the most popular sexual punishments for bad behavior – and it’s a great way to make your subservient partner completely unable to reach any pleasure, whether through sexual intercourse or masturbation! This can be achieved by simply ordering them to wear a chastity belt. If you are in a long-distance BDSM relationship, utilize phone chastity– they won’t get even a taste of pleasure until you give them the go-ahead. To explore this topic further, find more information here on female and male chastity.
- BDSM Humiliation Open Mouth Gag Or Tit/Clit Torture
Some erotic pain will take sexual punishment up a notch in BDSM. Use the open-mouth gag and combine it with tit/clit torture to make them feel your power. Make them uncomfortable, and they’ll never misbehave again!
- Fingering
How about adding a few punishing fingers to the mix? Make your disobedient partner squirm under pressure, and they’ll eventually learn their lesson. Everything from tickles, scrapping, and deep penetration can take this sexual punishment idea to the next level.
- Double Penetration
When fingers aren’t enough to teach your naughty sub a lesson, take it up another level using dildos and vibrators! The sensation of double penetration can be both physically and mentally punishing for your female sub; just ensure that it’s done safely!
- Sex Act They Don’t Enjoy
Know what turns them on AND off? Choose a sex act they would rather not do or find entirely humiliating (Explore 38 Cruel Yet Acceptable BDSM Humiliation Punishments), and make them do it without a whimper. And don’t forget to add the element of surprise – usually, when they least expect something is precisely what can be more punishing.
- Sex Machine Torture
For an extra wild BDSM sexual punishment, bring out a sex machine! Make your naughty submissive feel its power in ways they’re not enjoying. This could range from making them submit to an intensely pleasurable thrusting experience at faster speeds than usual – until you tell it otherwise.
- Consented Gang Bang
For a highly intense sexual punishment, invite a few other trusted Doms to have fun with your submissive, but, of course, with their consent. Your naughty partner won’t forget this experience soon and will be much more accountable in the future!
- Public Sex
Punish your naughty sub with the humiliation of having to perform a sexual act in front of an audience (consensually, obviously!). Let them groan in delight and humiliation without being able to do anything about it. This is a surefire way to find success with behavior modification!
The Dos and Don’ts of BDSM Sexual Punishments
For devising a BDSM sexual punishment that works, there are some crucial dos and don’ts you must bear in mind. So let’s dive right into it, shall we?
Dos
- Discuss boundaries with your sub before beginning any sexual punishment – Make sure they understand what you expect and how far they’re comfortable pushing it.
- Introduce ideas gradually – You don’t want to serve them the full course in one go! Instead, start with more general and less intense sexual punishments, then slowly build your way to kinkier stuff.
- Introduce a safe word – Put a safe word in place to ensure you have control over the situation, and you or your sub can stop instantly if it goes south.
- Involve erotic pain – To deliver an effective punishment, make your submissive partner squirm with delight by incorporating a touch of pain.
- Take care of your sub afterward – Even if they’ve truly earned their punishment, providing them love and attention is still essential.
Don’ts
- Force anything on them – Make sure everything’s consensual, or it won’t be a proper sexual punishment.
- Ignore any warning signs – Keep an eye on your sub’s physical and mental state at all times. If they seem too exhausted or uncomfortable – stop immediately!
- Stop negotiation – Negotiation is a continuous process! Even if your naughty sub agrees to something in one session doesn’t necessarily mean they’ll be comfortable doing it forever – keep chatting about expectations every single time.
- Focus entirely on sexual punishments– Don’t rely solely on sexy sanctions for every infraction. Sometimes, use verbal or physical punishments to eliminate the monotony and create a more effective discipline strategy.
As long as you keep these dos and don’ts of BDSM sexual punishments in mind, administering effective discipline the sexy way won’t be a problem.
Forget Timeouts and Grounding: Discover the Power of BDSM Sexual Punishments
Sexual punishment can be the perfect way to nip bad behavior in the bud! Whether it’s denying your sub any sexual pleasure at all or bringing in a sex machine for extra punishment, these BDSM sanctions are sure to bring naughty partners to line in no time.
Remember, communication and negotiation are critical components of successful sexual punishment. Don’t force your sub to do anything they’re uncomfortable doing; take care of them after the punishment, and watch the power of BDSM sexual punishments come to life!