DIY BDSM From Household Items You Haven’t Thought About

Christian Grey of Fifty Shades of Grey had money to afford all the expensive toys he got to fulfill his BDSM fantasies. Unfortunately, not all of us are as wealthy as Mr. Grey, but does this mean we need to limit our BDSM fantasies? Absolutely no, especially when you know how to do it yourself.

DIY BDSM, also known as “Do-It-Yourself BDSM,” is a term that refers to the practice of creating BDSM equipment or toys at home or using everyday items for BDSM activities. This can include using a belt as a bondage restraint or creating a flogger from materials like rope or chain.

So, fellow BDSM lovers, are you ready to unravel the secrets of doing BDSM cheap and your way? Well, keep on reading to find out how.

DIY BDSM Furniture

Who says you need to buy that expensive BDSM furniture to have some fun while all you need to do is give your home furniture a sexy makeover? Let’s look at how you can do it with ease!

Handcrafted BDSM Bed

Do you have a wooden bed at home? If yes, you are in luck cause you can easily turn that bed into a BDSM bed. 

All you need to do is add four hitch rings, and there you have it: your own DIY BDSM bondage bed. It would be best to have hitch rings with mounting plates for this, one in each corner of the hardwood bed frame. This kind of bed would be great for attaching bondage ropes, and if you are a bit more DIY, you can even buy some from a local hardware store to get the full dungeon effect.

Or? Do you own a bed with a slatted bed frame? Perfect! With this kind of bed, it’s super easy to hide all your little sneaky bondage links under the mattress, so no one can see what your bed can really do. Just tie a carabiner to each corner of the bed frame with a short rope. This way, you can hook up the wrist or ankle cuffs whenever you want to play a little. When you’re done, just tuck the carabiner and rope back under the mattress, and all the bed’s secret fun stuff is out of sight.

Want to know how simple it is? They say a picture is worth a thousand words. Check out this DIY trick straight from Sir M’s and save Lisa’s bedroom:

Storage Chest and a Spanking Bench

We all have that one big wooden box just sitting and gathering dust somewhere in our place. Why not put it to use and make it a storage chest and a spanking bench? If you’ve got a large wooden box, it’s great for storing all your toys and other BDSM gear. Save your money—no need for those pricey briefcases!

Plus, the box can double as a spanking bench. Just bend your partner over the box and have at it! So, why not knock out two birds with one stone?

And to give it that extra cool Dungeon vibe, you could cover the top of the box with some padded leather. If that seems like a bit much to start with, a regular blanket will work just fine for your spanking sessions. If you’re thinking of adding leather, a professional carpenter or a leather craftsman can quickly help you out with that!

Get a Cheaper Cage

We all know that subs can be very naughty at times and must be punished similarly. One way to punish the subs is to lock them up in a cage until they improve their behavior.

Besides being a cheaper option, the cage idea is excellent if you are into puppy play.
Dog Cage on Amazon is a great alternative to expensive BDSM cage variants.

Got a spot where you can place a sturdy hook in the ceiling of your home or play space? Then, I’ve got a super cool suggestion for you—this leather hanging cage! Of course, when it’s not playtime, you can use the ceiling hook in a wholly chill and stealthy way, like hanging a plant or, even better and guaranteed to be appreciated by your sub, a comfy and cozy hanging basket for relaxing and kicking back.

Leather Hanging Cage on Amazon

Make A Queening Stool On Your Own

Queening stools are great for oral sex. Would it help if I tell you that you can make it in your home with the equipment generally present in our homes? Well, let me tell you how you can make a queening table on your own!

To make a queening stool, you will need the following materials:

• A sturdy wooden or metal base for the seat (buy the base if you don’t have it)
• A padded seat cushion
• A hole saw drill bit
• Sandpaper
• Stain or paint (optional)

Here are the steps to make a queening stool:

• Cut a hole in the center of the seat using the hole saw drill bit. The hole should be large enough to accommodate the submissive partner’s head comfortably.
• Sand the edges of the hole to remove any rough edges or splinters.
• Attach the padded seat cushion to the top of the seat using screws or adhesive.

BDSM DIY Accessories

Now that we have talked about the basic furniture you would need for BDSM and how you can make it on your own, it is time to talk about the essential BDSM accessories that you can easily make on your own or get alternative options that are relatively cheaper.

Collars

BDSM collars are a symbol of submission. They are no doubt an essential part of any BDSM relationship, and without collars, there is no way one can feel the power of being a submissive.

There’s no need to leave your house for a simple play scene—you can use your dress belt as a collar. And if you’re after something a bit more flashy but still want to keep those bucks in your wallet instead of spending a fortune at the sex shop, your local pet store’s got you covered. You can grab a budget-friendly dog collar and choose a leash that’s totally your vibe. It’s all about keeping it easy and wallet-friendly!

The dog collar is not only a cheaper option but also excellent for individuals interested in pet play.

DIY Restraints and Cuffs Ideas For BDSM

Many things might or might not be available at home that you can use to make your own restraints and cuffs. Here are a few DIY ideas for restraints and cuffs that you could consider:

Rope Bondage: Rope bondage is a traditional and versatile way to create restraints. All you need is some sturdy rope (such as cotton, hemp, or nylon) and some knowledge of basic knot-tying techniques. Many online tutorials and instructional videos are available to guide you through the process.

Scarf or Tie Cuffs: If you have some old scarves or ties, you can repurpose them into simple cuffs. Tie them around your partner’s wrists or ankles, making sure they are not too tight and can be easily removed if necessary.

Duct Tape Restraints: Duct tape can create temporary and disposable restraints. Wrap the tape around your partner’s wrists or ankles, careful not to make it too tight or to cover their circulation. Use safety scissors to quickly and easily remove the tape if necessary.

Velcro Cuffs: You can create Velcro cuffs using a strip of Velcro and some fabric. Sew the soft side of the Velcro onto a strip of cloth, then cut the fabric into two equal lengths. Sew the rough side of the Velcro onto the ends of each length, creating cuffs that can be fastened and unfastened easily.

Leather Restraints: If you have some leather scraps or an old leather belt, you can use them to create simple restraints. Cut the leather into strips and punch holes in each end. Use metal hardware (such as buckles or snaps) to fasten the strips into cuffs or restraints.

Make Your Own Spreader Bar

Spreader bars are used to spread your partner’s legs so that you can get full access to their genitals. You can make your spreader bars on your own with just a few pieces of equipment.

Things you need:

• A wooden dowel (cut to the length you desire).
• Two closed-eye hooks
• Two carabiners
• Some sandpaper
• Something to wrap the bar in (such as tape, leather or imitation leather, cloth), and a drill.

Steps:

• The cut ends should first be smoothed out using sandpaper.
• After that, mark and drill the holes for the eyelets at the pole’s ends.
• After that, drill the holes using a thinner drill bit than the screws on your eye hooks. The hooks can then be screwed into the openings, each with a carabiner attached.
• The length of the pole should now be wrapped in the tape or fabric of your choice.

Household Items To Use As BDSM Toys

Now that we know about the BDSM accessories we can use on our partners, it’s time to know about the household items one can use as sex toys. 

Candles

Candles are in every home, and they are great if you want to have a sensational temperature play. Heat the candle and drip it all over your lover’s body for your desired pleasure. Ensure the wax is not too hot; otherwise, it can cause injuries. 

If you are new to this topic, please read our article about Safe-Wax-Play first! 

Clothespin

Who said clothespin is only for hanging clothes when you can use it as a nipple clamp also? It will have the same pleasurable effect as a nipple pin and is cheaper, too. I bet laundry does not seem like a chore anymore, or does it?

Standard Ruler

Want to enjoy light spanking? No need to buy expensive spanking sticks. Your ordinary ruler can get the job done quite well. Resist any temptations to use it as a measuring instrument while you are down there; some things are best kept a secret.

Sandpaper

Sandpaper can be awesome for some thrilling play! Gently rub it against your partner’s smooth skin—it’s all about giving and getting maximum pleasure. Run it over your partner’s erogenous zones to amp up the sense of control. But remember, you gotta be super-mindful about the grit you pick; you don’t want to cause any real damage, especially in those sensitive areas.

Ice Cubes

Is anyone up for temperature play? I bet all of us are. Ice cubes are great to add to your ideas for temperatures. They are in every home, and you can use them to give extreme sensory stimulation to your partner.

Keep them in your mouth and give the best oral sex your partner would ever get, or rub the cubes all over their body to provide them with sensory overload.

Bamboo Plant For Impact Play, anyone?

Well, not all of us are lucky enough to have a bamboo plant at home or nearby, but those with this luxury do not take it for granted. For the rest of us, a quick trip to the hardware store’s garden section usually does the trick. You’ll often find bamboo sticks there. You know, those typically used to give potted plants a little extra support and help them stand tall? That’s the stuff! Bamboo sticks are great to use for impact play. Start spanking or flogging your partner without the need to go and buy expensive items for impact play.

Other Household Items You Can Use for Spanking

If you thought I was done listing down the DIY toys you can use, you could not be more wrong! Apart from the many items listed above, there are some more household items one can use for spanking, for instance;

• Spatulas
• Chopping board
• Back of a hairbrush
• Ping pong paddle
• shoehorn
• dress belt
• electric cable (handle with care! The smaller (diameter) they are, the more damage they can do)
• rubber rings or household rubbers (fascinating to spank the feet of your sub; place it around the foot and then pull and snap it back)
• … and many more – just let your imagination run wild!

Final Thoughts On DIY BDSM

BDSM is a fantastic experience, but frankly, it is expensive as well. The equipment one needs to go about BDSM can be way out of your budget, but that does not mean you cannot fulfill your fantasies. DIY BDSM is a great way to practice cheaper and more effective BDSM. However, you must remain safe and ensure that whatever stuff you make on your own, you must first learn proper instructions on making that equipment.

Things like bondage ropes, spanking equipment, and items you need for temperature and sensation play can be easily found in your home. You can also make BDSM furniture from the furniture you have at home if you properly learn to transform home furniture into BDSM furniture.