Do you feel anxious when you hear the term slave training? Don’t worry because you’re not the only one here. At first, slave training seems intense, but practice and willingness to learn about it profoundly help a BDSM couple a lot. Initially, your mind might refuse to accept such a thing, but things will make sense with time and a broader perspective.
Slave training refers to the practice of one person (the “Master“) training and guiding another person (the “slave“) to fulfill specific roles and expectations within their BDSM relationship. It can include training in obedience, protocol, communication, physical skills, and service. Slave training involves a wide range of activities, including but not limited to physical training, such as posture, body position, and movement, as well as mental training, focus, and attention to detail.
Like any other BDSM activity, slave training must always be based on clear communication and mutual respect. It should involve the willing participation of all parties involved. Slave training has many aspects and can get confusing if you don’t know where to start. The good news is that after reading this detailed article on slave training from your very own Sir M, you and your slave will understand and enjoy your BDSM life even more! So, keep reading.
Introduction to Slave Training
For a slave (a person who enjoys serving others) to please their Master and do things the way their Master likes, they must undergo slave training. Contrary to popular belief, a Master-slave relationship is not just limited to exchanging sexual favors. It goes beyond bed and depends on the personal preferences of the Master.
Typical relationship-oriented dynamics are often clearly laid out in slave training. For example, things like clothes, diet, speech limitations, domestic duties, and scheduling are usually clearly established by the Master/Mistress. So, slave training enables a Master to guide their slave according to the things that please them.
Before deciding to undergo slave training, clear expectations regarding the couple’s sexual orientation—monogamy vs. polyamory—as well as whether or not there will be permission for or expectations surrounding intercourse with other people—are typically spelled out.
5 General Rules of Slave Training
The training of a BDSM slave involves a gradual process of building trust and intimacy between the Master and slave, as well as establishing clear boundaries and expectations.
The specific training activities and methods will depend on the preferences and goals. However, some general rules and activities are usually included in slave training.
1. Negotiation and Consent
Before training begins, the Master and slave must negotiate and agree on the terms of their power exchange relationship.
It includes establishing limits, setting boundaries, and discussing specific activities with which the submissive is comfortable.
2. Protocol Training
Protocol training involves teaching the slave partner specific behaviors and rituals they must follow. These include rules for dress and behavior, how to address the Master, and other forms of obedience and servitude.
Protocol training can help to establish a clear power dynamic and reinforce the enslaved person’s commitment to the Master.
3. Physical Training
Physical training can include activities such as bondage, impact play, and other forms of physical discipline that the slave is comfortable doing.
The Master should always be mindful of the slave’s physical limits and establish safety measures, such as safe words and quick-release mechanisms.
4. Humiliation and Degradation
Humiliation and degradation activities can be a part of BDSM slave training. Still, it is essential to approach these activities with sensitivity and respect.
Never push your slave beyond their limits; the Master should always be mindful of the potential emotional impact of these activities.
5. Aftercare
Aftercare is an essential part of BDSM slave training. It involves providing emotional and physical support to the slave after a training session, which can help to reduce the risk of emotional trauma or negative after-effects.
It’s important to remember that BDSM slave training should always be consensual and negotiated in advance. Both partners should have deep trust and respect for each other. They should be committed to establishing clear boundaries and limits. BDSM slave training can be for everyone with the right approach to the subject.
Steps Required to Start Slave Training
It’s fair to assume at this point that you already have a willful partner to train, and all you need are a few guidelines ad steps to kick-start your slave training. So, why wait? Let’s look at the steps you must follow to train your slave.
What Type of Slave Do You Prefer?
Before diving into any training routine, deciding what you want from that practice is essential. The same is the case with slave training. A Master must dig deep to find out what kind of slave they want and can handle.
Do you need more clarification about your preference? Well, the following details about the types of a slave might be of help.
House/domestic slave: They are in charge of washing, ironing, cleaning, and cooking to keep the Master’s home operating smoothly.
Sex Slave: Someone the Master can use as their property, especially for sexual purposes.
Toilet Slave: a slave responsible for keeping the toilet clean and washing the hands of people visiting their Master’s home.
Kajira/Gorean Slave: It is a type of slave who is responsible for serving the household and the sexual needs of their Master. Find more details in our article: Many Shades Of Erotic Slavery Exploring The Gorean Lifestyle.
Once you decide on the kind of slave you want, you can mix and match the types according to your preference and train your slave accordingly.
Protocols
Simply put, the protocol is what you agree to do. What behaviors, customs, and rituals do you demand of your slave in this relationship? There are two types of protocols; high protocol and low protocol.
Low protocol: It’s an informal way of agreeing to do things. The Master/slave relationship is not formal and does not continue 24/7. Establishing a code word signifying the start of the dynamic is helpful in case of a low protocol setting.
High protocol: This is a highly formal way of going about things. The Master demands absolute perfection and has high expectations from the slave. Therefore, the slave should be on their best behavior 24/7; failure to do so can result in punishment.
Following low protocol is the ideal way to start slave training. The slave should be allowed to have fun and shouldn’t be stripped of their true personality, which often happens when Masters demand perfection 24/7.
Occasional Vs. 24/7 Master/Slave Relationship
Before you start to train your slave, you must decide whether you want an occasional Master/slave dynamic or want 24/7 non-stop enjoyment.
Here’s something that might help you ease the predicament.
Occasional, low protocol: You decide on a time, date, and length for which the dynamic will be in effect. Usually, slaves want to perform domestic duties. However, if your lover solely wishes to be a sex slave, this will typically only happen in the bedroom.
24/7, low protocol: As the name suggests, a 24/7, low protocol dynamic will remain effective every day but will be informal. Simply put, your slave won’t be your slave until you ask them to.
24/7, high protocol: The slave will be on their best behavior 24/7 and will not engage in any activity their Master disapproves of.
High protocol at home, low protocol elsewhere: The slave will serve their Master with high standards at home. However, outside of the house, the dynamic will be informal. Choosing the dynamic which works best for both you and your slave is your personal choice. It will require practice and dedication until you find the dynamic which works excellently for you both.
Communicate With Your Slave
Just because you are the Master doesn’t mean you only have a say in the relationship. Remember that relationships (especially Master/slave dynamic) work when the needs of the slave are also respected. You must ask your slave what they prefer and how they feel about slave training.
Communication builds trust and is a great way to break the ice when discussing unorthodox topics such as slave training. Let your slave speak their mind, ask their limits, and assure them that their boundaries will remain intact.
Sign a BDSM Contract
After carefully considering everything, you need to get everything written and duly signed by both the slave and the Master to avoid any mishaps in the future.
A BDSM or a Master/slave training contract should include the following things:
- Limits you both have set.
- The time duration and the type of dynamic.
- It should also include the expectations both slave and Master have for each other.
- How would the slave address their Master?
- Training schedule.
- Progress chart to check up on the slave’s performance.
- Verbal and non-verbal commands (you can also include a list of poses for the slave here)
Write each important in bullet points and agree to the contract by putting down your signatures. Have a look at the short temporary template of a BDSM contract here.
Now that we have gone through with the technicalities let us begin the practical part of the training by learning about slave commands and poses.
Slave’s Poses and Commands
Time for the part where the training gets even more, fun and enjoyable. In this step, you need to tell your slave the positions you prefer and help them learn the commands that they will respond to.
Slave positions are the preferred positions a Master commands from their slave. You can make them perform as many positions as you like.
Ensure that your orders are simple enough for the slave to understand and remember because the slave will adopt a position based on the command they may receive.
Some simples slave commands are:
- Stand; In this position, the slave stands with their feet close together. Hands are either on the sides or tied behind the back.
- Sit; sitting on the floor with legs crossed.
- Kneel; kneeling with bum on the ankles and head bowed
- All fours; on all fours, with slave’s ass exposed towards the Master, knees set at shoulder width. The slave should avoid wearing pants. If wearing a skirt, she should draw it up over her bum and take off her panties.
Start the training with simple commands, and then you can upgrade your level to advanced commands.
Set Some Rules for the Slaves
To further spice up the training process, a Master can also give a set of rules to their slaves. Here are some rules you might be interested in
- The slave shall follow the commands and quickly get into the position asked by the Master
- The slave should behave well in public so their Master can show them off proudly.
- The slave should wear the clothes the Master finds appealing.
- The slave shall learn how to massage their Master and take proper care of them.
- The slave should always try to show their Master their submissive side.
Check your Slave’s Progress
OurHome is an app that is helpful to ensure that your slave is performing their duties according to the rules given by the Master. Although the app allows families to manage their homes, it also performs admirably in a BDSM setting.
Both partners should have this app on their phones. For example, the Master can add chores and delegate them to his slave; the slave checks each one off when it is finished and can reward themselves with points.
Slave Punishment
Slave punishment is a way to correct your slave’s bad behavior and is also a part of slave training. Some common forms of slave punishments are:
Verbal reprimand: scolding your slave for punishable behavior. Since slaves are very service oriented, a harsh word from their Master can be a massive blow to them.
Revoking pleasure: temporarily depriving the slave of the things they enjoy.
Humiliation punishment: humiliate your slave for bad behavior by asking them to hold a sorry sign while naked or wear a collar around their neck all day.
Physical punishment: includes spanking, caning, or whipping your slave. Ask your slave to kneel on rice for ten minutes. Instruct your slave to remain silent on the stairs until you call her. Put her against the wall in the corner of the room.
Final Thoughts on Slave Training
We have finally reached the end of this article, and now it’s safe to say that you are ready to train your slave according to your style. Again, remember the importance of communication, trust, and consent; you will be a pro in no time.
Decide what you prefer, sign a contract, and command all the positions you like from your slave to get things started correctly. Happy training!