The Best Breath Play Techniques for BDSM Lovers

Have you fantasized about practicing breath-play with your partner in the bedroom? BDSM breathe play technique proves fantastic when practiced to bring about sexual satisfaction. Some props or your hands may help bring about this playful nature during sex. Don’t just live in sexual fantasy. Use breath play with your partner to guarantee exciting moments for BDSM lovers.

So, if you have thought of adding breath play to your sexual experience, this article brings you eye-opening places to begin. Remember always to start slow, and remember that moderation always proves safest.

What is Breath Play?

Breath play or erotic asphyxiation refers to a form of BDSM game played by the Dom directed to their sub by preventing air flow or breathing. These BDSM plays aim to bring out sexual arousal as the brain gets a limited oxygen supply while having sex. This erotic experience dates back to when those condemned to hanging could erect as they died.

Breath plays prove dangerous, and some safety advice comes in handy. If your partner has something in their mouth blocking the airway and making it hard to speak, ensure you make the play even shorter. Safe words must be supplemented by safe signs, while your partner may not talk during the breath play. You will find more details about safety at the end, so stay tuned!

Breath play by a simple command

The simplest way to practice breath play will be to tell your partner to hold their breath. As they do so, they get aroused whenever the brain craves more oxygen. This BDSM technique works perfectly with other bondage techniques like spanking and sexual penetrations. As the Dom performs these erotic practices, they command the sub to hold their breath until they permit them to breathe again.

Holding your breath might not be as dangerous as other breath-play games. While at it, the Dom explores their body while causing arousal from touching or inserting dildos or fingers in their body openings.

If the sub needs to breathe before being allowed by the Dom, it is a perfect punishment opportunity. This scenario keeps the play exciting. 

Classic breath-holding

Classic breath-holding is a technique in BDSM where the dominant uses hands to cover the submissive partner’s mouth and nose. This act cuts airflow for the submissive causing some romantic suffering. While doing this, your partner holds their breath as long as possible. This playful act continues, and as the sub gets dizzy, they may get highly aroused. 

Classic breath-holding escalation techniques include using dildos, vaginal beads, or other sex toys in the sub’s mouth to limit airflow as the Dom’s hands cover the nose. As this process goes on, you both get pleasure beyond the limits.

Use of a collar

You may consider using a collar or choker to cause some suffocating feeling to your partner during breath play. To buy a collar, you don’t need to go to the sex shop, but instead, find a good assortment in the pet shop next door. And maybe you will enjoy attaching a leash to the collar and pulling your partner across the room like a pet. By further tightening the collar, you restrict airflow for your sub. In return, they feel powerless and vulnerable, while you feel powerful and in control. You may use this playful technique while toying with their clitoris, vagina, and breasts giving you control over their orgasm. Then, as they beg you for more touch, you indeed will be aroused and satisfied as well. 

If you tie the leash to furniture, you get complete control over their bodies. As the collar slightly chokes them, playing around with their nipples, clit, vagina, or even the anus brings both of you immense sexual pleasure. You may also use the leash to tie on the neck, adding to the collar’s choking effect. Find a great collar with a lockable buckle here, and be sure the sub won’t escape without your permission!

Choking 

Choking is considered breath play since it limits airflow, causing slight dizziness to the submissive partner. If you practice choking your partner while keeping it safe, orgasms may get undeniably sweet. This technique operates on light strangulation, where not much pressure gets applied to the neck. When choking your partner, remain on their comfort level to avoid blocking the airway.

You might consider squeezing the partner’s neck slightly using your hands. This way, you won’t block the airway entirely; hence not risky. Also, using a soft tie or scarf to chock your sub playfully proves a sexy way to bring about pleasure. 

You may slip your finger into your sub’s mouth while choking them lightly. Toying the sub’s nipples and vagina may also bring you intense arousal and satisfaction.

Gagging

A gag ball can increase feelings of humiliation and helplessness for the sub, heightening their arousal. In addition, a gag ball can be used as a breath play for the dominant partner, controlling the sub’s breathing to increase their sense of vulnerability. 

Additionally, gag balls can be used as punishment or restraint, preventing the submissive from speaking (or making any noise) until they are released by the dominant. In short, gag balls are a versatile BDSM toys that can provide a unique and intense experience for both partners. Up to give it a try, find a bargain here.

Hoods or gas masks as perfect breath play props       

Gas masks or hoods might be the perfect way to add kinkiness to the breath play BDSM technique. As the hood creates a tight-like seal on the face, the sub feels its air supply decreasing. As the panic kicks in, they usually get more arousal while the Dom enjoys the sense of control it brings. Since your partner’s breath depends on your input, you can explore their body with your fingers or tongue. Go ahead to lick and finger their openings until they reach an orgasm.

While gas masking or using hoods, ensure you do so safely. Some hoods come with a zipper or tube to allow for opening and closing. Ensure you monitor your partner’s comfort to guarantee safety as you take your intimacy to the next level. You might achieve this by ensuring short-spanned masking while touching and licking all the sensitive spots on your partner’s body.

Some gas masks come with a porous material allowing some flow of air inside. A hood with tiny holes will make a perfect play item.

Submerging in water in breath play

When you reach the expert level in BDSM breath play, practicing breath play submerged in water might be very arousing. If you try this on your partner, you have to maintain it under safe timelines to avoid possible drowning. As the sub gets submerged in water to hold their breath, other BDSM practices like flogging may add to the sexual thrill.

The Dom uses water in a big container or bath tab to submerge the sub’s head. You can explore other sensitive body areas as you gain control over the breathing episodes. This breath play gets used as a severe punishment technique among BDSM lovers.

Aquaphilia defines sexual arousal from water environments, including bathtubs and swimming pools. As you get sexually intimate in these environments, some controlled breath play might prove sexy.

You may add a touch to the water play by letting a water spray hit your partner’s sensitive spots like the nipples, clitoris, and vagina. For male subs, hitting the pennies head and the breasts with high-pressurized water spray will make every orgasm memorable. Also, when the water spray targets the face, making breathing difficult, you may experience a similar effect to submerging in water. 

Penis-mouth insertion as a way to breathe play         

Inserting your penis into your sub’s mouth causes the effect caused by slight suffocation. This technique goes hand in hand with closing the nostrils, simultaneously limiting airflow. The penis goes deep into the throat, making the sub a little lightheaded, thus causing arousal. A collar on their neck while making the inward and outward penis movement makes the technique easy. The breath control guarantees a much more memorable sex experience.

Kinging/Queening in BDSM

Kinging/Queening in BDSM breath play happens when the Dom uses their genitals to smother their partner’s face. The genitals block the mouth and nostrils, limiting air supply for some time. This practice in the BDSM category has gained popularity as more Doms seek ways to control their subs. 

For Kinging, a male partner acts as the Dom. He uses his penis and testicles to smother their partner’s face to block the nostrils and the mouth. This act limits airflow to the sub. For Queening, the Dom will be a female, and she uses her genitals to block her sub’s airways. 

You might improve it by lifting your genitals to allow breathing and licking before resuming the play so the way is opened for intense and prolonged play.

Preparing for emergency scenarios in Breath plays

Caution in this area of play proves essential. Talk to your partner about what will happen, agree clearly on the boundaries, and use safe signs instead of safe words. For example, safe signs come in handy if your partner can’t talk during breath play. Click here to read important information about safe breath play in our dedicated article.

Also, be prepared to use EMS scissors if you need to free your partner. Other helpful tips include knowledge of recovery position, performing CPR, and knowledge of emergency numbers. Remember always to remain safe and never allow limiting air to the point of unconsciousness. Also, never attempt breath play while under the influence of drugs or alcohol. Impaired judgment may risk suffocation or drowning in water breath-play games.