Wax play is not a taboo anymore. According to Derek Newton, founder of simpatic.us, out of the 10,000 couples using his site, 36% want to try it. So, if you feel that the passion you once shared with your partner is drifting away and you need to bring the hotness back, then you are at the right place.
Wax play is a category of temperature play in which hot wax, usually candle wax, is dripped onto your partner’s (or your) body. Wax play alerts many of our senses, enabling the couple to take the joy of BDSM to new heights. The pain, the heat, and the alertness that the heat from hot wax creates keep the couple intimately present during a BDSM session.
Fortunately, you do not need to fret anymore about how you can incorporate wax play into your life as a BDSM couple because Master M has got your back. So keep reading to learn everything you need to know about wax play.
Why You Must Try Wax Play
You can try including many kinks during a BDSM session, so what is so remarkable about wax play? Why must you give it a try? Well, the following reasons might help you convince why wax or candle play is one of the best things you can include in your BDSM sessions.
- Wax play alleviates most of our senses, and we feel a heightened sense of pleasure when the hot wax dribbles down our already sexually stimulated bodies.
- As stated by Isabelle Uren, a sex expert at Bedbible, the wax play leaves the person anticipating as they wait for a hot sensation to strike their body. This emotion and the excitement of doing an activity that is a bit dangerous keep the couple sexually aroused.
- Our senses heighten because of the bodily reaction to anything hot, making us feel our partner’s touch more intensely.
- Experiencing and learning something new with your partner is intimate, and adding the heat of candle wax to your learning will surely make your sex life even more exciting.
- As with other BDSM kinks, starting wax play with your partner would require consent, clear communication, and trust. Hence, it is also a great way to build trust and communication.
Now that we are finished discussing why one must try wax play, let us look at all the prerequisites you need to get started.
Type of Candles
If you can use any candle for wax play, please throw away that thought because there are candles that are designed explicitly for wax play. Using any available candle can end up hurting your partner.
Uren says, “Body-safe massage candles are the safest if you are new to wax play, as they melt at a much lower temperature.”
She further says, “Not to mention, they often have skin-nourishing oils in them that will leave your skin feeling deliciously soft! I would always recommend buying candles made specifically for wax play. They are usually made from soy wax, which has a lower melting point, or paraffin wax, which has a slightly higher melting point and will give a more intense sensation.”
Here are some things you should keep in mind while choosing candles for wax play:
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Ingredients
Soy: The soy candles are safe to use because they have low temperatures and cool off quickly.
Paraffin: if you are a fan of the intense wax play, try the paraffin candles out, as they start burning at a higher point than the soy candles.
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Ingredients That Aren’t Recommended
Beeswax: Using beeswax can burn skin, so stay away from it!
Colors or dyes: Colors or dyes might alter the melting point of most candles, which may cause an unexpected burn.
Scented candle: Avoid using aromatic candles as they will burn too quickly, and the added chemicals can irritate your skin.
Candle in thin or small glass containers: Avoid candles packaged in little or skinny glass jars. They might break. Hot glass and melted wax will fly everywhere if they break while you hold them over your partner. It won’t be very sexy. Candles in glass with bigger diameters and more robust wall thickness also keep you safe.
Preparations and Safety Tips For a Wax Play
Now that we are sorted on the kind of candles you need for wax play, let’s look at the preparations you need to make to prepare yourself for an intense wax and candle play session.
- Put on a soothing lotion on your skin so that the wax is easier to clean off and does not cause skin irritation.
- Additionally, remove body hair because you don’t want the wax sticking to your body hair, or do you?
- Don’t start the play session before clearing your room of any flammable material (alcohol, hair spray). Keep a water bucket or fire extinguisher, just in case. We do not want the fire department breaking your door off while you are naked (oops!).
- Before dripping wax on your partner, test the temp in your hand or wrist. Also, be aware that the temperature is hotter as you are nearer to the body; thus, you could variate the intensity and pain with the distance you drop the wax. Next, test your partner’s body and ask them if the pain is bearable. Drip a little wax on other body parts; some parts are more sensitive than others.
- Do not use brand-new bed sheets; if you use one, cover it with a plastic sheet. No matter how careful you are, you will spill some wax on your bed sheet, and washing off the wax from a bed sheet is challenging.
- Please do not slather your skin with baby oil; it’s not a good idea! Baby oil is flammable and could be dangerous if you rub it all over your skin.
- Do not, I repeat, do not drip wax on your partner’s genitals. It is tough to wash and can cause pH disturbances.
- Keep first aid nearby. In case of any emergency, you should be thoroughly prepared.
Wax Play Techniques
There are several techniques to make wax play sexier and more fun. Here are the techniques you can try.
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Mind Splashback
It means splashing wax on your partner from a certain height. Splashing wax from a distance would mean that the wax flecks might spread to areas further than you think. Keep your partner’s eyes protected from these little flecks by:
- Blindfolding them
- Lie down their face
- Keeping their eyes shut
- Avoiding face contact
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Pouring Technique
Pouring is more frequently used during massages. The pouring technique works well for massages and massaging your partner’s erogenous regions. Hold the candle at a 45-degree angle to cause it to melt and drip occasionally, or let the wax build up in the well at the top of the candle before pouring a sizable blob.
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Trading Pours
Another choice is to trade pours. Face one another and alternately drip or pour on each other. For example, you may receive a small trickle on your leg from your partner before responding with a large pour on your partner’s thigh.
Wax Play Variation
There are many fun and kinky things you can combine wax play with. Here are some wax play variations you can give a try.
Wax Plus Knife Play
Spread wax all over your partner. Use a knife that isn’t too sharp, then cut a line through the wax crust with the knife’s point. Looks fun and spooky, right? Try it on and let me know what you think.
Ice Plus Wax
Apply ice to the skin before playing with wax if you have any on hand. Use hot wax to some areas while applying ice to others, or use ice to cool the skin so that wax will adhere to it more quickly.
Wax Smudging
In addition to utilizing candle wax, it is also feasible to melt some wax in a pot and then spill or distribute it to your partner. This is especially beneficial if you want to use wax to create naughty designs on your partner’s body.
AfterCare
After a BDSM session, it’s crucial to go through aftercare. Ensuring a component of aftercare through positive actions like snuggling, affirming words, reassurance, and providing water shows you love your partner, and it’s a must to be integrated into your BDSM session.
For sensitive skin, I’d recommend finishing your wax play session with a massage using aloe vera or sunburn cream. Who knows, it can even pave the way for more sex? If the burn is a bit more serious, I advise this homeopathic Burn Ointment from Boiron, which is also an essential part of your aftercare kit.
Final Thought on Wax Play In BDSM
Wax play is a great way to revive your old kinky self or introduce a new kink into your relationship. Apart from heating the sex life of BDSM couples, wax play is excellent for building strong communication skills and trust.
The types of candles used for a wax play must be body safe. Before starting the wax play session, couples must ensure each other’s safety by keeping first aid and water bucket nearby and any flammable items far from the session scene.
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