Kinky Adventures Await: 40 BDSM Activities to Try Now


If you’ve ever wondered what the perfect blend of pleasure and pain looks like, you’ve come to the right place! BDSM activities can bring a thrilling edge to your bedroom experiences – and this article will give you all the best BDSM play ideas. 

BDSM activities are the perfect way to explore your naughty side and learn to push your boundaries safely and consensually. From the classic rope bondage and spanking to more exotic and exciting activities like caging and cock and ball torture, there’s something for everyone, no matter your kink. 

This article will cover all the adventurous kinky activities you can do with your BDSM partner. So, if you’re ready to get your kink on, let’s dive into the world of BDSM activities!

BDSM Activities Ideas

From the wonderfully simple to the tantalizingly complicated, we’ve got 40 bondage, dominance, submission, and masochism activities ideas for you to take your play to the next level.

Bondage Ideas

Ropes around naked woman body
Ropes around naked woman’s body
  1. Blindfolds 

Blindfolds are one of the most accessible and most used bondage tools. They can excite those who are interested in sensory deprivation and those who are curious about the effect of the unknown. In addition, not being able to see during bondage can heighten the sense of anticipation and vulnerability.

2. Wrist and ankle cuffs 

Wrist and ankle cuffs are a versatile form of bondage that can be used to bind someone in a wide variety of positions. They typically come with one cuff for each side and can be adjusted to fit snugly and securely around wrists and ankles. They are perfect for those who want to experiment with bondage and explore the power of restraint.

3. Collaring

Collaring is a consensual act between two people that symbolizes ownership or a commitment to a relationship. It typically involves presenting a collar to the person, who then wears it to show their loyalty. It is perfect for those interested in establishing a power exchange relationship. 

4. Gags 

Gags are an accessory typically used for consensual power exchange. They can be used for various purposes, including adding a layer of sensation-play or simply keeping someone quiet during play. To use gags, make the submissive put the headpiece in their mouth and tighten it with fastening straps. Make sure the straps are secure but not too tight. 

5. Bed bondage 

Bed bondage is where the person-in-charge (usually a Dom or Master/Mistress) ties up their partner on the bed using ropes, straps, or cuffs, playing out various fantasies. It is excellent for those who want to add an extra layer of excitement to their sex life in a way that can be easily set up using items from around the house, or buy this Bed-Restrain-Starter kit directly from Amazon

6. Shibari rope tying 

Shibari rope tying involves wrapping rope around a person’s body, typically jute or hemp for aesthetics, sensations, and bondage. It’s perfect for those who want to add an element of bondage to their play, as the rope can provide both visual appeal and stimulation. It is best to do it in a private area or BDSM dungeon; we recommend practicing beforehand, ensuring that each person is kept safe.

Learn how you can get started with Shibari and Kinbaku here.

7. Bondage tape 

Bondage tape is an adhesive tape that adheres only to itself, making it less likely to harm the skin than rope. It is an ideal alternative to rope when it comes to bondage play, as it usually clings to itself fashionably and functionally. Tape is particularly great for those just starting, as it can be easily wrapped and adjusted around the wrists and ankles to bind them together and is easily removed.

8. Spreader bars 

Spreader bars are highly adjustable bars that connect pairs of ankles or wrists, depending on the model. Start by setting the bar at a level of tension that is comfortable for your partner, and then secure the bar by using cuffs or another type of restraint. Spreader bars can be used to put someone in a primary position of restraint, as well as more creative and complicated positions. They are great for challenging even the most experienced bondage players.

9. Suspension bondage

Suspension bondage is a form of bondage where the person-in-charge ties the partner up using strong and sturdy materials, such as rope, straps, or cuffs, suspending them off the ground in a way that can be enjoyed both visually and physically. It is perfect for those looking to explore the depths of their bondage, as it can allow for creativity and gravity-defying positions. This activity should only be done with trusted partners familiar with the practice and the safety involved.

10. Bondage harnesses 

Bondage harnesses are designed to be used to hold the body together in bondage play in a way that is secure and comfortable. They can come in all sorts of designs and can be used to achieve anything from fantasy-type poses to more mundane bedroom bondage. They can be great for those looking to explore more strenuous bondage and BDSM securely. 

If you want more ideas for bondage, see our article on 10 types of soft bondage or this DIY guide on device bondage. 

Ideas for Dominance

Dominance BDSM activity

1. Hair pulling 

Hair pulling is a classic way for a Dom to show light dominance. Gripping a sub’s hair, especially if attached to pulling the sub’s head back, is a powerful display of power. However, it creates a sense of vulnerability and helplessness as the Dom is firmly in control.

2. Verbal dominance

Verbal dominance encompasses words that a Dom can use to evoke feelings of submission verbally. For example, it might involve being addressed in a particular way, calling the sub pet names, or the Dom issuing explicit orders without room for refusal. This type of dominance play is about power relationships between the two parties.

3. Wielding control over dressing or grooming

Such a dominance play as taking control over dressing or grooming is another way to show dominance, as it involves the Dom dictating the sub’s appearance. It can include commands such as telling the sub what to wear or how to style their hair. Even something as small as specifying what jewelry is worn can be decidedly domineering.

4. Tease-and-denial

Tease and denial is an exciting activity that can really flex Dom’s control. The Dom teases the sub for arousal, then stops just before the sub reaches their climax. This is a thrilling activity for both parties, and the Dom gets to display their expertise over the body and emotions of the sub. 

5. Spanking and flogging

Spanking and flogging are probably the most iconic forms of Dom/sub play. Flogging can create various sensations (from gentle caresses to a punishing sting) depending on what the Dom and sub are comfortable with.

6. Caging/confining

Caging and confining the sub can create a sense of imprisonment and complete control for the Dom. For example, it might mean locking the sub up in a cage or encouraging them to adopt a confined posture, such as a head-down position.

7. Pet play

Pet play focuses on the Dom mediating the sub into an animal, typically a dog or cat. This can involve vocal commands, such as barking, meowing, or using toys like a collar and leash. This type of play is all about emulating desired pet traits and behavior.

8. Objectification

Objectification is a type of kink play where the Dom treats a sub as an inanimate object, either figuratively or literally. This can involve using the sub as a living decoration or piece of furniture, treating them as something to be admired but not interacted with.

9. Forced servitude

Forced servitude or slavery is another way to show dominance. It could involve having the sub take on all the domestic chores, such as cooking and cleaning or requiring them to take a more submissive and passive role in the relationship. 

10. Forced nudity

Finally, forced nudity is one of the best ways to demonstrate dominance. This activity requires the sub to strip down as commanded by the Dom. Not only does this show Dom’s dominance and control over the sub, but it also takes the emotion of shame out of the equation.

Submission and Sadism Ideas

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Submissive woman wearing a harness
  1. Addressing partner as Master or Mistress

Addressing one’s Dom as Master or Mistress shows reverence and respect. An ideal activity for those comfortable with verbal exchange and verbal submission, it can add an extra layer of trust and desire to your BDSM relationship.

2. Bearing forced silence

During play, the submissive will show their obedience to their Dominant by not speaking, thus putting their trust in the Dominant. A basic and essential activity that most submissives should learn, bearing forced silence can be an incredibly powerful tool in Dom/Sub relationships. 

3. Giving up control 

The act of giving up control is a vital part of the submission. Submissives surrender their autonomy, so their partner has a more significant influence in their decision-making process. This is done through trust, communication, and a desire to reciprocate the pleasure.

4. Wearing a collar or harness

A lasting way to symbolize one’s submission, wearing a collar to signify submissive status is a traditional way for some to enact and honor their obedience. Ideal for those who want to show and remind themselves of their roles in the relationship and power exchange.

5. Serving 

Submissives can serve their Dominant in many ways, depending on the individual couple’s needs and wants. From simple commands to physical tasks, serving your Dominant can add a layer of pleasure, respect, and trust to your relationship.

6. Being subjected to face-sitting

In this activity, a submissive will place their face in the lap of the dominant partner, or the Dom sits on the sub’s face; with this, the sub accepts their partner’s control over them. The dominant partner will then use the thighs, bottom, and weight of their body to exert control over the submissive. The pressure and weight applied to the face of the submissive will symbolize their submission. This act of surrender can be incredibly empowering for both partners and has the potential to create a heightened level of intimacy between them. 

7. Groveling 

Groveling is a form of submission that shows Dominant respect and admiration. It involves getting down on the ground and making motions of submission while speaking to the Dominant. The submissive will often express their worship and humble adoration and communicate any needs or desires. This can be a submissive’s way of showing respect and earning the Dominant’s approval.

8. Genuflecting 

Genuflecting is a classic way of demonstrating submission to the Dominant, whereby the submissive kneel before their Master or Mistress. This can be part of a scene or day-to-day etiquette in the BDSM realm.

9. Practicing enforced chastity

Enforced chastity is a kink play involving a submissive entering into an agreement with the Dominant that they will remain chaste and practice abstinence. This may involve the submissive being locked in a chastity device that prevents sexual activity. The submissive must seek permission from their Dom for sexual gratification.

10. Taking part in anal play

Anal play can be a feature of submissive play and can be a way of obtaining pleasure and demonstrating their willingness to surrender to the Dom’s wishes. The activity can involve using toys, fingers, and a penis for penetration and stimulation of the anus, a delicate and sensitive body area. The submissive may also participate in activities such as enemas or anal fisting.

Masochism Ideas

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Wax play combined with a bondage
  1. Bite play

Bite play is best done with gentle yet firm bites all over the body. Is it also ideal for those looking to experience a bit of pain with their pleasure while having enjoyable sensations simultaneously.

2. Nipple clamping

Nipple clamping can be done with metal clamps or even with clothespins. It works best when done slowly and gradually, with intensity levels increasing slowly. It can be used to help increase arousal and can be fun for those who enjoy pain.

3. Clit torture

Clit torture can include teasing, scratching, pinching, and other gentle torments. It should always be done with consent and can be incredibly pleasurable when done in a slow and teasing manner.

4. Cock and ball torture 

Cock and Ball Torture (CBT) is a form of BDSM where pressure is put on the penis, testicles, and scrotum for pain play. CBT can be as intense as you make it and is perfect for those who are prepared to explore the depths of kink.

5. Object insertion

Object Insertion (i.e., Dildos, Butt Plugs, etc.) is done by inserting sex toys into the body for pleasure. This activity can bring joy to new heights and is ideal for those exploring different depths of sensation.

6. Wax play 

Wax play is the process of dripping warm wax onto the body, typically in a slow and controlled manner. As this activity produces a stinging sensation, it should be reserved for those looking to enhance pleasure with a bit of pain.

7. Needle play 

Needle play is done with one partner gently pushing needles into the other’s skin for extreme pain and pleasure. It is often used to create intricate patterns and body decorations. This activity is one of the more intense forms of play and is best reserved for more experienced couples with a deep connection. 

8. Electric play 

Various electric toys or electrical stimulation devices, either hand-held or with electrodes, are used in this activity. This could include things like a TENS unit or a violet wand. While these devices are varied, they ultimately rely on manipulating electrical current and voltage to send different sensations over the skin. For most masochists, electric play is more about sensual exploration than extreme pain. When done well, it can feel like a light tickling sensation or a deep prickly massage. Sir M and Lisa love playing with their electronic device from MyStim, which is.

9. Fire play

Fire play involves lightly touching the skin with an open flame or a partially extinguished flame to produce a pleasurable sensation. It is an ideal activity for those looking to indulge in light BDSM play while maintaining safety.

10. Knife Play

Knife play involves using a blade or knife to scrape and tickle the skin lightly. This activity is perfect for those looking to experience intense but safe pleasure without the use of extreme force or any bodily penetration. Not for the faint of heart, knife play should only be done by those who trust each other and know the boundaries.

Related reading: Hard and Soft limits in BDSM – it is essential to discuss your boundaries before engaging in any BDSM activities!

Wrapping Up

In conclusion, BDSM can be as easy or complicated as you want it to be. There is no one-size-fits-all approach, so take the time to explore the many activities available and choose which best suits you and your partner. The possibilities are endless, from the relatively simple bedroom options to elaborate dungeon play!

So, whether you want to dip your toe in the bondage pond or jump into the deep end of the masochistic play, plenty of kinky adventures await you! Start exploring today!

And if you are looking for some tools and toys to enhance your BDSM experience, find some products Sir M and slave L are using and could recommend:

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