BDSM is wide. You don’t know what you might come across when watching videos or reading articles on bondage and submissive sex. It was not until yesterday that I found out there was a name for feet play; Bastinado. Wow.
We have gone through what soft bondage is, one of the numerous concepts of BDSM. Now its antithesis is our focus; hard bondage.
Hard bondage is a type of BDSM practice that involves using intense and restrictive forms of bondage equipment or materials to restrain a partner for an extended period of time. It typically involves using leather straps, chains, ropes, or cables to keep the subject in place and can also include using items such as gags, blindfolds, hoods, collars, and other forms of physical restraint.
Hard bondage is often associated with more extreme play involving domination and submission. This type of play requires an immense amount of trust between partners. Usually, dense materials are used, like silicone clothing and wraps, rough natural ropes, and it’s often combined with other pain-inductive toys. The goal of hard bondage plays is to derive pain and have it converted to pleasure. However, these pain levels should not limit the partner’s well-being.
Preferences are different when it comes to BDSM. Some individuals like being pulled lightly, while others want to feel the pain. Well, surveys have shown that most individuals enjoy the latter, especially during roleplays and fantasy involvements see here. So, we will talk about everything hard bondage; variations, styles, and every other point you need to know.
What is Hard Bondage?
Hard bondage involves rigid restrictions and binding. In hard bondage, full-body wraps and challenging ropes are sometimes used to bound the body completely. Unlike soft bondage, it is not aimed at intimacy; instead, it exploits power and submission control, thereby bringing pleasure. Instances in soft bondage where fluffy cuffs are used, rugged and rough ropes are the restraints in hard bondage plays. The bounds and restraints are also usually difficult to break free from in hard bondage. Because of the need for firm bondages, synthetic ropes are often used for their strength. For example, nylon ropes are mainly used for suspension plays. For more on ropes, please take a look at our article on perfect rope selection. And for now, let’s see what kinds of this, especially hard kinks, are in the BDSM world.
Different Kinds of Hard Bondage
Hard bondage comes in different styles and for various reasons. However, here are some typical rigid bondage types and why people perform them.
• Mummification: We all know Egyptian mummies and how cool they are, but imagine your partner looking as amazing as one of them. Mummification involves wrapping your partner all over. Sometimes, the wrappings can start from the neck to the toes to limit movement, while complete body wraps can be used during breath-limiting plays and chokes. Materials like bandages, duck tapes, silicone tapes, and neck wraps are used as body wraps. Cling films are one of the most popular wraps used by beginners because of its low price and easy application.
• Suspensions: This is a top-rated BDSM play. It involves elevating the subject and hanging them from the suspension points above. During suspension play, strong ropes are used to connect the subject and the overhead suspension points, so they will not fall or get loose quickly.
The subject is left dangling and vulnerable. To spice it up, the dominant partner can add whipping and flogging for sensory stimulation. Suspension plays build heightened senses of inescapability and bondage because they know they might fall and injure themselves if they attempt to escape. It also brings about objectification and submissiveness.
• Shibari: Shibari is a form of bondage originating from Japan. It has become increasingly popular in the realm of BDSM, as it releases endorphins through the body from the tension applied during rope binding. Practicing Shibari can also involve pulling and suspending a partner as well as predicament ties which require resistance from the subject while being held down by the dominant partner. Not only does Shibari have erotic appeal, but it also offers aesthetic beauty through its creative knotting technique, which makes it more than just a BDSM practice – it’s an art form. To learn more about this broad concept of bondage, check out our detailed article on the subject.
• Rope Hair Wraps: When you want to carry out a rope hair wrap, you create a firm knot on your partner’s hair end and pull it back. This motion drags the follicles, leaving a kind of “pain-sure” sensation for the partner. In addition, the hairs are often connected with ropes to other parts of the partner’s body (e.g., the ankles) or to some fixed posts in the play scene.
• Predicament Bondage: This kind of bondage involves placing a partner in a physically uncomfortable position, such as on their tiptoes, bent forward, or any other position that results in physical strain and will result sooner or later in muscle or physical fatigue. Heavy objects and ropes are then placed on the subject to cause pain when they attempt to move. These items can be placed on sensitive body parts like the genitals, leaving the partner helplessly vulnerable. To make things more exciting, the dominant partner may use tickling, sexual stimulation, or flogging to force movement from their submissive partner. Predicament bondage offers both sensations and strength from those participating in it – making it an incredibly thrilling experience for all involved.
• Spreader Bars: Spreader bars are standard bondage equipment made of a wooden or metal bar with cuffs at the end. They can be used either on the wrists or ankles to bound and hold them down. It makes movement impossible, except for the most awkward walking. When used on the wrists, the hands are separated, making it impossible to reach the torso.
Safety Tips for Hard Bondage BDSM
All pleasure and no safety will surely end in the hospital. This is a BDSM quote I grew accustomed to when having the kinkiest times of my life. From the name, hard bondage, it is clear that care should be taken when having such intercourse to avoid casualties. So, here are some safety points to note when having hard bondage BDSM plays or scenes.
• There should always be blood flow. Maybe breathing limitations might be kinky, but try not to mess with the blood. Don’t have your ropes so tight that they limit blood flow around the body.
• Take note of hard limits. These are areas or activities that make your partner uncomfortable during BDSM plays. Certain activities might trigger past events, so know when to stop. You and your partner can talk about these limits before getting starting the fun.
• Safe words are essential. Always have safe words that you and your partner won’t have issues understanding. If you are gaged and have restricted speech, use body motions to indicate your need (safe signs).
• Hard bondage plays are meant to be rough and kinky, but the ropes shouldn’t cause so much damage to the skin. Also, take note of allergies and reactions when selecting ropes to use.
Conclusion
Hard bondage BDSM plays are essential for those who prefer elevated ecstasy to mild pleasure. It is very vital in fantasy realization and experience. There are many techniques and tips to get the best satisfaction. Well, safety is still paramount. Take note of the above safety tips to have the perfect and safe BDSM play. And is hard bondage maybe a bit too rigid, have a glance at our recommendations for the top 10 types of soft bondage!
Happy kinky holidays!