Even though it may sound a bit off the mark, male chastity is being explored and taken by many men for the thrill it offers. Either way, the pleasures and benefits of taking this brave step are endless. So, what is male chastity?
Male chastity is the willful abstinence from sex by men, usually involving a chastity device. It could be a solo decision by the male or one taken with the consent of their partner, where they are the ones in control. So how do you explore male chastity? And what are the benefits and risk factors involved? Well, keep reading to find out.
How to Explore Male Chastity As A Beginner?
Male chastity is more than just locking up your cock and being constantly frustrated. It’s a lifestyle, a whole mindset, usually taken with some aim, depending entirely upon you.
Male chastity could be practiced with a partner or without, where it’s not essential to be in a romantic relationship. However, being in one can elevate the experience for both partners. Male chastity is predominantly used in the context of BDSM as a kind of funishment or punishment (see more about the difference in BDSM Punishment vs. Funishment).
You can also go for it alone for the simple pleasure it offers; however, there are some rules you’ll need to stick to. Your key holder, the person in charge of your chastity, will prohibit certain sexual activities, and you might not even be allowed to orgasm without their permission. Not following so will most definitely result in consequences.
It sounds like you’re selling your soul to the devil, right? Depending on your key holder, this could very well be the case, but instead of your soul, you are trading your chastity.
Elements of Male Chastity
Here are some key elements of male chastity, without which it would be incomplete.
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Cage
A cage is the chastity device in which your penis will be locked. It is found in different materials, ranging from metal and silicone to leather and rope.
There are several types of male chastity devices, depending on the purpose you want to wear them for.
Some are more temporary, used chiefly during sexual activities to try out a specific position and grant greater physical control to your partner. Others are more permanent and make your cock inaccessible to you and anybody else until your partner allows it.
Although male chastity devices work by being tight enough to be painful during erections, finding a cage that fits you properly is essential.
You don’t want it to be too tight when your dick is flaccid. Doing so can result in wounds caused by friction and a cut-off blood supply, which could harm your sexual health.
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A Vow
Anyone entering the male chastity world must first make a written pledge. Sorry, I just let my inner Dom slide in, but signing a contract to clarify the rules and boundaries would be good to get clarity about the rules and boundaries.
Get all the rules and regulations down so you know what you’re getting yourself into.
The terms of the “chastity – contract” would include the following:
- The duration of the period you will be locked up.
- Any other forms of sexual pleasure were penned down.
- Whether or not you will be allowed to orgasm.
- How you will be allowed to orgasm.
- The release period of cleaning.
Cleaning your genitals once to twice a week is vital if you don’t want them to smell like rotten fish and prevent any infections from building up. But most of the chastity cages you could easily wear also during a shower.
You’ll need to remember that male chastity is a gradual process that’ll take you some time to get used to, especially if you’re from a sexually active lifestyle. Therefore, it is best to take it step by step, slowly increasing the time you keep your cock caged in.
Refraining from sexual activity for prolonged periods can result in decreased length of your dick and create complications for your sexual health, which is the opposite of what you want to achieve from male chastity.
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Key Holder
A key holder is a person who will be in charge of the key to your chastity device. They don’t necessarily need to be a person; it could be a company or a device (e.g., a timing lock) to whom you choose to assign your key.
So, the person could be someone online, or you have a live, physical relationship with and can enjoy the other sexual pleasures you are allowed. Men in couples may try male chastity willingly, to try something new within the bedroom and come out with a stronger bond with their partner than before.
Many couples even continue this chastity lifestyle because of the joyful sexual experience it offers for both men and women. There may be additional terms within the contract if another person is involved.
These include:
- What they are allowed to do to you.
- The location of the key.
- What you’ll need to do in order to please your partner.
- The consequences if you fail to keep up.
The partner will also decide on the previously mentioned conditions.
Why Was Male Chastity Invented?
Historically, we can find various instances of female chastity devices, where crusaders used them to safeguard their wives’ loyalty and protect them from rape. Male chastity devices were, however, ridiculed and not given much consideration, being worn by primary monks to safeguard their celibacy.
The Dom/sub culture has introduced a specific kink to the concept, allowing it to be fantasized about among men. To be sexually helpless without their partner’s will is a fetish many men will stay silent about due to the role prescribed to them by society.
So, what’s so magical about locking up your bird in a cage when you could set it free?
Why Do Men Opt For Male Chastity?
Wearing a chastity device can have multiple benefits, depending on the person wearing it. Here are a few of them.
To Lower Their Sex Drive
Of course, this can be difficult to even imagine for some men, but let me tell you how irresistible it is to be with a man who can say no. Dogs are always chasing cats. So what’s new in that? But when the roles are reversed, that’s a twist in the story we didn’t know we needed.
By handing over the key to your chastity to your partner, you not only have the chance to work on your willpower but also give your partner a chance to explore their desires towards you and enjoy sex even more.
Better Orgasms
Your partner may also stop you from hitting your edge, i.e., stopping you just when you’re about to cum. These practices will increase your control over your orgasm, allowing you to cum when you want to and sync with your partner when they want to finish.
The effect on your sexual health will be incredibly positive, improving the quality of your orgasms and making them more intense and pleasurable for you and your partner.
Nothing is better than getting your head slammed into the headboard and simultaneously hitting the edge with your partner. Trust me here. And as a logical follow-up, you could work with your partner together to become a multi-orgasmic man.
Interested how? Read our article about Ejaculation Withholding – The Path To Be A Multiorgasmic Man.
More Freedom
This is the most paradoxical statement you’ve seen in the article, but you’ve got to see it for yourself if you want to see what I mean.
You’ll be able to reflect on your decisions and make choices in a much more rational way, one that you might not have had the chance to do before. You get the opportunity to think more clearly when you’re in a cage.
It positively affects your mental and physical health, and men who aren’t in a relationship also opt for male chastity for these very reasons. You’ll have to try it out to know what I mean.
Types Of Male Chastity Devices
There are a variety of male chastity devices you can find for your cock, or that your partner may choose for you.
Here are a few examples to give you a head start.
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The Holder
This kind of male chastity device could be of both temporary and permanent nature. Its shape and design will tell you about its function, so make sure you have chosen accordingly.
The materials include plastic, leather, silicone, and metal and could come with several rings to adjust its permanence. An opening is found at the end of most permanent cages, so urinating doesn’t become a problem.
The primary purpose of such a chastity device is to hold the dick in place. Whether temporarily during sexual activity or as a more permanent device meant to preserve chastity, a holder does its job quite effectively.
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Male Chastity With Special Features
While it is possible to urinate easily in most male chastity devices, there are ones with urethral catheters that make it even less of a hassle.
Male chastity devices with catheters usually have longer cages than those without catheters. You could put it on yourself or ask your partner to do it, but you must ensure the catheter is well inside your urethra.
Besides catering to your bladder needs, male chastity devices can come with unique features, including electroshocks that come with being a bad boy, where you and your cock get nowhere to hide.
If you want an allrounder, check out the male chastity device Public Enemy No. 1 from Mystim. Sir M tried and could recommend this one because it features everything mentioned above. In addition, the cage can be used individually, where the length can be adjusted to suit the cock size of the bearer, with e-stim pads within the cage to tease or punish your bearer or even with a urethra catheter; a definite must-try!
Final Thoughts On Male Chastity
Exploring male chastity can be a very intense experience for both you and your partner. It requires a great deal of courage and willpower to step into the world of pleasure and pain.
Ensure you are aware of all types of consequences associated with the experience. Clarify the terms your partner has put forth before leaping. But remember, the risk factor makes male chastity so thrilling and allows you to keep going. So don’t let a little word of caution stop you from exploring endless wonders of male chastity, and try it for yourself today!