The occasional spank can be alluring – but are you comfortable exploring the extreme end of BDSM play? If so, then humiliation punishment might be for you!
BDSM humiliation is a consensual activity in which the Dom does verbal mockery, public humiliation, physical torture, and sexual degradation on the sub. These activities are often used in BDSM kinky play as they are a turn-on for some submissives. They can also be used for punishment when rules are not respected.
Whether you’re just wild enough to try it as a sub or an avid BDSM Dom looking for some new punishment ideas – this blog post explores 38 BDSM humiliation ideas you can use for consensual kinky play or punishment.
What is BDSM Humiliation?
If you consider yourself a bit wild and open-minded, BDSM humiliation could be the kinky activity for you! BDSM humiliation is a consensual activity where the Dom embarrasses, shames, and downplays the sub with no intention of harm but to explore their own kinky needs or as a punishment to modify behavior.
It’s essential to remember that BDSM humiliation may not be suitable for those who have experienced self-esteem issues or have a past with traumatic experiences. This could lead to potential harm, which is never the intention of BDSM humiliation.
If you decide BDSM humiliation is something you and your partner are interested in, knowing the dynamics, rules, and boundaries is essential before you get too carried away! Anything that has the potential to cause actual harm should never be done in BDSM humiliation, but it doesn’t mean that you can’t have a little fun with it safely.
While the Dom must know the limits and boundaries of what BDSM humiliation means to you, part of this requires getting creative with how you humiliate your sub. To understand precisely what BDSM humiliation is and why some people find it so alluring, read on to discover its underlying motivations and some thrilling BDSM activities that can be classified as BDSM humiliation.
Why Do People Like BDSM Humiliation?
Humiliation in BDSM is a bit of a mystery – why do people willingly vent it or give themselves to it? Although there’s no conclusive scientific evidence, it’s likely due to a combination of sadistic and masochistic tendencies.
Sadists get satisfaction from feeling powerful and dominant (Learn what sadists like most in bed here). That’s why they indulge in BDSM humiliation, as it’s one of the harshest ways to prove they’re the one with the “control.” On the other hand, masochists enjoy pain and humiliation. For them, BDSM humiliation provides intense distress; they seek to reach a certain level of satisfaction.
For some submissives, it’s simply about allowing the Dom to control them. Feeling owned and controlled by the Dom can be incredibly satisfying for them. They’ll be put in their place and made to obey.
So, BDSM humiliation brings together an intoxicating blend of power and pleasure and a longing for control and surrender. That’s why people are drawn to BDSM humiliation in different ways, depending on individual preferences.
BDSM Humiliation Ideas
From subtle acts such as name calling or instructing naked exercises all the way through to more extreme forms like public displays and sexual degradation– there are plenty of options when exploring BDSM humiliation. So let’s dive right in!
Verbal Humiliation Ideas
- Name-calling- Call them degrading names such as Pig fucker, Ass wipe, Ball licker, Cocksleeve, worthless slave, etc.
- Cringe-worthy taunts- Use humiliating phrases such as ‘I can’t even feel it,’ ‘You’re lucky I haven’t dumped you yet,’ ‘You’re so worthless,’ etc.
- Dismissive mockery: Ridicule and mock their attempts to please you. For example, ‘You think that’s enough?’ right after they significantly try to please you.
- Physique diatribes: Belittle their physique with remarks such as ‘Look at that chubby butt,’ ‘Wow, you have a lot of flab,’ ‘How about some exercise for that belly,’ etc.
- Chronic questioning: Keep questioning and pointing out their submissiveness. For example, say to them– ‘You call yourself a sub? Well, Is that really submissive behavior?’
- Self-rebuke: Make the sub repeat mockery phrases such as ‘I’m a messed-up mess’ or ‘I’m an idiot.’
- Demanding challenge: Provoke by asking questions such as ‘Why don’t you try harder?’ ‘Are you even trying?’ ‘What do you do that’s useful?’
- Embarrassing performance: Make them sing, recite poetry or read embarrassing passages out loud.
- Comparison demeaning: Compare them to their BDSM friends with remarks such as ‘Look at how much better they are than you’ or ‘You’ll never be as good as they are.’
Want to know more about verbal punishments in BDSM? Check out this incredible read– Delightfully Evil & Deliciously Harsh: 9 BDSM Verbal Punishment Ideas and get the insights you need to guide your sub towards the right behavior verbally.
Physical Humiliation Ideas
- Insulting scribbles: Write insults on their body such as Dirty slut, Anal slut, Cock whore, Cum guzzler.
- Humiliation furniture: Have your sub act as a piece of furniture, like a coffee table, for a while.
- Disgusting splash: Spit in their face and make them bear it without retaliation.
- Naked exercise: Force them to do naked exercises such as burpees and push-ups while you watch.
- Cunny cum-facials: Force the sub to give themselves a facial with your cum.
- Golden shower: Pee on them while they face you. Take it to the next level with a deepthroat piss.
- Eat-it-all: Make the sub eat your semen.
- Horny announcements: Make them announce every time they are horny and why they are.
- Unwanted leg shaving: If you’re punishing a male sub, force them to shave their legs.
- Ass-licking: As Femdom, have your Male sub lick your anus and ensure he does it properly and as long as you want.
- Intentional hurting: Face slap or whip them as you please.
Public Humiliation Ideas
- Outdated clothing: Have them wear old or ripped clothes in public.
- Using bodily fluids: Make them wear your cum and walk out, e.g., walk around in cum soaked underwear.
- BDSM forced feminization: Make your submissive partner step out in opposite gender clothes, e.g., a Male sub to wear the Femdom’s underwear.
- Embarrassing accessories: Make them walk around with your underwear in their mouth.
- Public masturbation: Have them masturbate in public.
- Fake humiliation: Splash water on the genital area of their pants and make them walk out to look like they peed on themselves.
- Loud scolding: Scold them in public for their bad behavior.
- Dog-like following: Have your sub walk behind you in a public space
- Outlandish hairstyles: Force them to have an odd haircut, such as a bald patch or Mohawk, and have a walk in a public space.
Sexual Humiliation Ideas
- Erotic exposure: Sex near an open window so your neighbors and passersby can witness the act.
- Criticizing remarks: Utter degrading terms about their sexual performance, such as “That was terrible.”
- Mockery rating: Have a third party judge your sub’s sexual performance– the overall rating should be a poor performance from the sub, no matter how good they are).
- Cuckolding humiliation: Deliberately put your male sub (who is not a cuckold) in a situation where they witness you (the Femdom) engage in sexual activity with someone else. This serves the purpose of denigrating and belittling them and making them feel humiliated and inferior.
- Disparitling dildo comparison: Compare their penis size to a larger dildo and state how you’d rather fuck that. This is perfect for male subs.
- Divulging videos: Force them to watch a video of you having sex with someone else and tell them that you really enjoyed it and it’s nothing compared to what they offer.
- Perfectionist degradation: Try complex sexual positions with them and degrade them if they can’t keep up.
- Sabotaging conversations: Take a phone call during sex, discussing another person’s ‘sexual skills.’
- Cold abandonment: Immediately leave after sex and don’t talk to or contact them for the rest of the day.
4 Components of Effective BDSM Humiliation
- Start Slowly– Begin slowly and gradually increase the intensity, gauging your partner’s comfort level. It is easy to go too far with BDSM humiliation and cause harm to your partner.
- Establish Boundaries– Set boundaries and agreed-upon limits before beginning BDSM humiliation play. These should be stipulated clearly on your contract under ‘Punishments.’ Find more about your BDSM contract in this must-read: Master/slave Contract – How To Start To Create One.
- Establish a Safe Word– Establish an agreed-upon safe word that either partner can use to stop or slow down the experience if the intensity becomes too much.
- Aftercare- Ensure you provide your partner with enough aftercare, including a debrief of their humiliation experiences and whether or not they were comfortable and enjoyed it.
When Does BDSM Humiliation Become Negative?
Various elements of BDSM can turn people on. However, it’s essential to understand that when someone enjoys having their boundaries pushed, it can be a very thin line from consensual humiliation to severe psychological abuse.
Although many people participate in BDSM humiliation as a consensual act, it can quickly go beyond what has been agreed upon since you’re already pushing each other’s physical, emotional, and psychological limitations. BDSM humiliation outside of set rules is dangerous, so the utmost care must be taken to ensure that this exhilarating experience does not become a source of deep-seated pain and hurt.
There will be times when the Dom may unintentionally transgress the boundaries that had been agreed upon, and these need to be recognized and immediately rectified. If it appears that the transgressing partner is not aware of the gravity of their actions, then it is best to discuss your feelings and how this could have been avoided.
What Is the Difference Between BDSM Humiliation and Degradation?
Are humiliation and degradation just two peas in a BDSM pod? Not quite! While both of them are used in combination to create a unique kinky experience, there is still a distinction between the two.
Humiliation is an act that shame and embarrasses your partner, often based on their appearance or actions. It can range from sexual humiliation to verbal shaming about things your partner is self-conscious about, like their weight, performance in the bedroom, or physical flaws.
Degradation, on the other hand, is more of a dehumanizing act. It can involve treating them as an animal or inanimate objects. This goes one step further than humiliation, as it can lampoon the idea that the sub is not in control and has been stripped of their agency.
It’s important to know that the way subs react to humiliation and degradation varies. Some may be completely okay with humiliation alone, while others would be open to combining both. No matter your sub’s preferences, it’s crucial always to respect their boundaries when it comes to enjoying humiliation and/or degradation. Ultimately, it’s up to them to determine how far they’d like to go with any of these activities.
Take the Plunge But Don’t Lose Control
Humiliation punishments can have a powerful and intense effect on anyone, so it’s essential to understand its underlying motivation and how far is too far. A consensual exploration of BDSM humiliation can be an exciting journey full of pleasure and thrills. The trick is to know when, how much, and what to do to not step over the line and cause actual harm.
On one end, you want your submissive partner to experience their deepest fantasies or feel the consequence of their misbehavior with no regret or psychological pain; on the other – you have a thrilling time as a Dom, pushing their limits and presenting new challenges.
At the end of it all, when you’re ready to dip into BDSM humiliation punishment – remember that your partner’s physical and emotional well-being will always come first. And with these 38 BDSM humiliation ideas listed in this blog post by your side – make sure not to go too far and lose total control!