Have you ever been so immersed in a pleasurable experience that you were momentarily transported to another reality? Subspace is that elusive state of intense euphoria achieved during or after BDSM scenes.
Nothing quite compares to subspace for submissives—a trance-like state, cathartic, and out-of-body experience that can be experienced directly during a BDSM scene or even after a play. Subspace results from releasing various hormones like adrenaline, cortisol, endorphins, and endocannabinoids. This causes an intense rush of emotions and an altered state of consciousness, resulting in a feeling of escape and euphoria.
Subspace is the ultimate transcendent experience – an altered state of consciousness, an adrenaline rush, and endorphin-induced joy. It allows the submissive to experience pleasure and a deep sense of fulfillment. So whether you’re looking to understand subspace more or already know a bit and want to dive deeper, this blog post is the place for you!
BDSM Subspace Definition
Subspace or bottom space is a sought-after altered mental state felt by submissives such as slaves, bottoms, property, pets, littles, etc., in which they experience an intense sense of pleasure, euphoria, and an altered sense of reality. Some people refer to subspace as edgespace, floating, or crashing.
The mechanism of the subspace is thought to stem from the body’s natural release of endorphins and other hormones such as adrenaline, cortisol, and endocannabinoids. Endorphins are hormones that bind to opioid receptors in the brain and body, producing a sense of euphoria and relaxation. Endorphins likely contribute to the experienced sensations of pleasure and lack of physical pain during subspace.
The Hormones Involved
Adrenaline is a hormone that produces an influx of energy and alertness in response to stress. During subspace, adrenaline is believed to heighten senses and temporarily allow greater physical sensation processing.
The hormone cortisol is often released in response to stressful and traumatic events. It is thought to be involved in subspace due to its association with intense emotions and altered forms of consciousness.
Endocannabinoids are a group of substances that bind to receptors in the brain, producing a sense of well-being and relaxation. It is suggested that the release of these substances mainly contributes to the euphoria, peace, and time distortion experienced during subspace. Collectively, these hormones help to create a highly-aroused and relaxed state of consciousness or ‘flow state’ where the individual may feel up to a heightened level of pleasure and sensation.
Every BDSM adventure offers something special, but it’s in achieving subspace where the submissive’s journey can grow even more profound. This ecstatic state can be an extremely gratifying experience that’s part pleasure and part deep relaxation. To get in the right headspace for subspace, mental, physical, and emotional preparation is key.
Once the submissive is in this state, their senses will be heightened, their outlook may change, and they might even see things in a new light. And, when done right, BDSM subspace can be an extraordinarily blissful and weightless experience.
How Does Subspace Feel?
The effects of subspace can be felt mentally and physically and can vary significantly in intensity and duration depending on the person.
The Mental Side of Subspace
For some people, entering the subspace is accompanied by calm and tranquility as they drift away from reality. It can lead to a state of flow, described as completely being absorbed in the activity, in which great effort seems effortless. This flow state can also involve a trance-like form or a deep meditation-like experience.
Additionally, some people entering subspace experience total detachment from pain and an increase in their pain tolerance. This is accompanied by a heightened sense of exposure and vulnerability and a feeling of being out of one’s body.
The Physical Side of Subspace
The physical side of the BDSM subspace can involve lightheadedness and a fuzzy feeling, as well as a rush of adrenaline and increased heart rate. This may be accompanied by increased sexual arousal, deeper breathing, and an overall sense of relaxation. Some may even get to the point where they can no longer speak coherently or not at all.
Note: Due to the many variables involved, subspace is almost always unique!
Does Everybody Reach Subspace in Each Scene?
Well, not exactly. Though it’s a memorable and euphoric experience, the BDSM subspace doesn’t happen so often. BDSM practitioners may reach this state of mind a few times throughout their BDSM plays.
Surprisingly, many subs have experienced subspace, not even realizing it. In some cases, the entrance to subspace will even occur without a clear or conscious intention.
Additionally, it is also possible to enter subspace after the scene has already concluded. No matter what your experience with BDSM scenes is, reaching this state of mind is exceptional and, quite often, unforgettable. Subspace can provide feelings of deep contentment and powerful endorphin rushes.
Types of BDSM Subspace
Different BDSM subspace techniques exist, and these depend on the kinds of play being performed. Here are the most common BDSM subspace techniques:
- Ropespace
If you’re engaging in rope bondage, especially in an inverted position, you’re more likely to experience the release of endorphins and enter a state of subspace. In addition, the impact play, such as flogging or spanking accompanying rope bondage, induces a sense of gentle surrender, further enhancing the ropespace experience. Get the full scoop on choosing the best rope for rope bondage here.
- Littlespace
Little space is achieved in daddy Dom’s little girl plays. This type of play usually involves an adult portraying a childlike state of mind. To enter into littlespace, you must actively focus on the play and allow yourself to be in a little person’s emotional and mental state.
- Slavespace
During slave or bottom play, the slave or bottom will willingly give over control to the Dom or Master, which allows them to reach a heightened level of pleasure and enter an altered state of mind with complete surrender (slavespace). If you’re interested to learn about master and slave training, check out our previous guide on the topic.
- Petspace
A sub may enter the petspace when involved in pet play, but they must completely surrender to their master and embody the character of whatever animal they portray. To reach this intensity, the pet must focus on the play and assume the same mental state that its master wants.
How to Get Into Subspace
With BDSM, getting into subspace can feel mysterious and out of reach. But it doesn’t have to be! Here are some tips to get you started on this journey.
First, you want to permit yourself to let go. Don’t overthink it, don’t worry about how it should look, and don’t be afraid of what’s coming. Then, once your boundaries and activities are agreed upon, you and your partner can focus on achieving subspace.
It’s also important to remember that subspace is primarily connected to your psychological investment. That’s why scenes such as humiliation or sensory deprivation could become far more impactful in exploring subspace. Lastly, remember that everyone’s experience with subspace should be different. So, get to know yourself and what works best for you. Try impact play, light bondage, role play, and other BDSM activities, and notice what helps you best reach that state.
What to Consider When Somebody Is in Subspace and Comes Out of Subspace
Certain things must be considered when someone enters a subspace and exits it.
First, before diving into a subspace experience, it’s imperative that you have a trusted partner that knows how to lead you in and out of the experience safely. It’s essential to agree on the type of subspace activities (whipping, flogging, fisting, etc.) that can safely take place and ensure that the Dom will end it when necessary.
Subsequently, the Dom should be able to recognize any signs of distress in the sub that may indicate a need for immediate assistance. This can include seeing if they are completely disoriented, appear pale or flushed, or have difficulty breathing.
Additionally, consider the flow of the scene. Was it smooth? Did the subspace transition go as expected? If not, pause and ask if they are okay and if they would like to continue. Even if they indicate they are okay, checking in regularly and throughout the scene can be helpful.
Be aware of the sub’s response to touch and communication. During the subspace transition period, they may be particularly sensitive to touch and communication. Reassure the sub that they are safe and respected and don’t be afraid to ask if they need anything to make them more comfortable.
Finally, be mindful of the timing. Depending on a person’s experience and the type of BDSM play, subspace may take a few minutes to a few hours. Therefore, allow enough time after the scene for them to come out of the subspace slowly.
Sub Drop and Aftercare after Subspace
While subspace is a beautiful journey, knowing the possible aftermath is essential. When unrecognized and unsupported, subspace can leave us with an intense sensation of subdrop (the resulting effect when the sub resurfaces from the subspace and leaves the BDSM play scene). Subdrop is not only emotionally challenging to experience, but it can be incredibly draining to the body, so focused support is needed.
When the Dom realizes that the sub is returning to reality, they should take gradual cool-down measures. Focusing on positive reinforcement and understanding during this time can be exceptionally helpful to the sub coming out of the subspace. After coming out of subspace, the sub may feel anywhere from sad to sleepy to time loss, confusion, and dizziness.
To provide the finishing touches to one’s journey back to reality and reduce the immediate effect of having a scene, giving aftercare to the subdrop sufferer is essential. This includes providing nourishment, keeping them hydrated and warm, and continuing to support them mentally as they ease out of subspace. Nevertheless, in rare cases, if symptoms such as shivering and dizziness won’t go away, don’t hesitate to contact medical assistance.
Are There Any Potential Risks of BDSM Subspace?
As thrilling and liberating as the BDSM subspace can be, it’s essential to recognize that there are potential risks. Although you should feel safe in the hands of a loving and responsible Dom, it’s always best to be prepared and know what to do if things do not go as planned.
Firstly, you should understand the expectations and limits of both partners. This will ensure that your scene is consensual and included within the bounds of safety that both parties have agreed upon. Communication is critical when entering a BDSM scene; proper verbal or non-verbal cues can ensure that no one is ever in danger.
On a lighter note, you may experience memory loss upon waking from the subspace state. This is usually because of the intense emotions and altered mental states during BDSM play. However, you should not be too alarmed if this happens; rather, it can be a way of freeing yourself from any guilt associated with the scene and allowing you to move on.
Play with Caution
It is also important to remain cautious of potential physical injuries that may occur. While BDSM scenes should not be a physical punishment, it is possible to experience bruising, skin damage, and other injuries resulting from kinky play. To reduce your risk of this occurring, take appropriate precautions, keep in mind that their feeling of pain and their pain tolerance is different in being in subspace, and check in with your partner frequently during play.
Last but not least, it is essential to remember that the subspace state can sometimes cause an afterglow that can follow you even outside the bedroom. For example, if you are questioned or feel uncomfortable at work or in public after a BDSM scene, remember that you were in a safe and consensual environment and allowed to live out your fantasies.
Overall, it is vital to recognize not just the potential risks of BDSM subspace but also the immense pleasure and satisfaction it can bring. By taking the necessary precautions, communicating with your partner, and understanding the boundaries of play, you can ensure that you and your partner have an enjoyable, safe, and rewarding subspace experience.
FAQs
What is the difference between subspace and Domspace?
Subspace is a state of deep relaxation and pleasure achieved through a feeling of surrender and submission. On the other hand, Domspace or Topspace is an intense sense of power and control achieved after a Dom establishes complete dominance.
Subspace vs. subfrenzy: What’s the difference?
Subspace is an intense altered state of mind that occurs during or after a BDSM scene, whereas Subfrenzy is a self-imposed pressure of needing to do all kinky things to be a ‘good submissive’ to your Dom. Is a natural, euphoric experience, while Subfrenzy is an artificial, anxiety-laced pressure that often stems from insecurities of never being good enough.
What is the first BDSM subspace like?
Experiencing a BDSM subspace for the first time can be intimidating yet incredibly liberating. It can feel like a rush of emotions – from nervousness and excitement to a sense of power and even euphoria – but it is ultimately an unknown journey. In this space, trust is essential as participants take a leap of faith as they explore an entirely new level of intimacy.
How long will I be in the subspace?
Generally, it lasts 1-2 hours but can be so intense that it carries over even after aftercare for up to 24 hours. Although the intense feeling only lasts for a short time, the aftermath of reconnecting with reality can leave a glowy warmth lasting up to 3 days.
Wrapping Up
So, there you have it; BDSM Subspace really is a great place to be! While it’s definitely an intense and emotional experience, it can also bring a sense of closeness and trust between the partners. As long as you handle the practice with precaution and mutual care, the experience can be safe and enjoyable for everyone involved.
Remember to keep an eye out for potential risks and post-subspace depression (subdrop), and always ensure that aftercare is available for both parties. If done correctly, you and your partner will come out of subspace feeling refreshed, relaxed, and connected in a totally unique way.