BDSM is a playground for adults seeking to explore their deepest desires, from using restraints to applying pain. As a result, unusual punishments in BDSM are a distinct feature of the game that can add excitement, intrigue, and pleasure to your experience. While some may find these activities unusual, others find them thrilling and erotic.
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Unusual punishments in BDSM include:
- Bathroom use control
- Electric play
- Sissification
- Forced Orgasm
- Human furniture
- Corner time
- Forced Exercise
- Enema, etc.
Unusual punishment with these activities spices up and diversifies your playtime. However, for a rich and rewarding experience, safety, clear communication, and respect for boundaries are essential. To explore unique and creative forms of discipline and submission safely and consensually, couples should understand the risks involved and take appropriate safety precautions.
Punishment is used in BDSM in many different ways—from being an enjoyable part of play (as funishment, see our article: BDSM punishment vs. punishment) to a serious last resort (as a “real punishment”). This article provides some not-so-well-known ideas that you and your partner can use to spice things up in the bedroom. Then, depending on your limits as well as your personality, you can decide by yourself if it’s more of a funishment or a punishment.
What Are Unusual/Uncommon Punishments in BDSM?
Unusual punishments in BDSM are unique and creative forms of discipline and submission that deviate from traditional and mainstream BDSM activities. They are not commonly associated with BDSM, but some couples find them arousing and thrilling.
Types and Examples of Unusual/Uncommon Punishments in BDSM
BDSM includes many practices for exploring one’s inner desires and pushing the boundaries of pleasure and pain. While some people may regard certain types of BDSM play as more unusual or uncommon, it is crucial to recognize that all forms of BDSM play are unique to individuals based on their experience and preferences.
While sensory deprivation and verbal humiliation are more commonly used, many other types of punishment are less commonly used but can still be highly stimulating and intense. Some kinksters, for example, may enjoy the thrill of knife play, which involves using a sharp blade to create a sense of danger and vulnerability. Others may experiment with breath play, which involves controlling the submissive partner’s breathing to hyperventilation or even temporary unconsciousness.
Meanwhile, read our article on the best breath play techniques for BDSM lovers, and here is another to enlighten you about safety during breath play.
While these unconventional forms of kinks and punishment may not be for everyone, they provide a glimpse into the vast and varied world of BDSM play. Only by exploring one’s inner desires and pushing the boundaries of what is considered “normal” can kinksters create unique and unforgettable experiences that satisfy their deepest fantasies and desires.
Below is a table showing these types and examples of unusual/uncommon punishments in BDSM and their descriptions:
| Uncommon Punishments | Description |
| Bathroom Use Control | This punishment entails limiting the submissive partner’s access to the bathroom or requiring them to request permission before using it. It may also entail forcing the submissive partner to use a bucket or container instead of a toilet. Controlling bathroom use can be used as a form of physical or psychological punishment because it can cause discomfort and embarrassment and make the submissive partner feel humiliated and degraded. |
| Chastity | Using a chastity device, such as a locked cage or belt, to prevent the submissive partner from engaging in sexual activity or masturbation is called chastity. The device can be worn for a short or long time, and the dominant partner can decide when and if the submissive partner can orgasm. Chastity can be used as a form of punishment because it denies sexual pleasure to the submissive partner while reinforcing their submission to the dominant partner. More here: Female Chastity – Explore it now! |
| Electric Play | The use of electrical devices to inflict pain or pleasure on the submissive partner is referred to as electric play. You can read our piece on electrosex basics and electrosex devices to learn more about this. |
| Pet Play | Pet play is a type of role-playing in which the submissive partner adopts the persona of an animal, usually a pet, and is trained to act in that capacity. Based on the submissive partner’s obedience or disobedience, the dominant partner may reward or punish them. |
| Tickling | Tickling may be a punishment for some people because it causes discomfort or loss of control, especially if conducted in conjunction with bondage. This head-scratcher is an amazing “tickling-torture- device”, not only for the head. |
| Sissification | Sissification is dressing the submissive partner in feminine clothing and teaching them to act and speak in a feminine manner. |
| Edge Play | Examples of edge play include activities that push the boundaries of safety and comfort. Blood play, fire play, or breath play, to name a few possibilities. It necessitates strict safety precautions as well as communication between partners. |
| Forced Exercise | As a punishment, the submissive partner may be forced to engage in physical activities such as running or jumping jacks. |
| Human Furniture | The use of the submissive partner as furniture, such as a table or a footstool, is part of slave positions where the slave performs a position mimicking a piece of furniture. Find more information about different slave positions here. |
| Hypnosis | Hypnosis is the suggestion to induce a trance-like state in the submissive partner, making them more susceptible to commands. |
| Corner Time | Corner time entails forcing the submissive partner to stand in a corner for an extended period. This can lead to feelings of loneliness, boredom, and shame. The submissive partner may be required to stand facing the wall or with their back to the wall for an extended period, as well as remain in the corner. |
| Food | In BDSM, food can be used as punishment, such as forcing the submissive partner to eat a food they dislike or denying them food entirely. |
| Writing Lines by Hand | Writing lines by hand requires the submissive partner to write a sentence or phrase repeatedly, such as “I am a bad sub” or “I will obey my Dominant.” The idea is to create feelings of boredom and frustration, leading to submission and thinking about the reason for the punishment. The dominant partner may require the submissive partner to write a certain number of lines, e.g., 100x or is defining the time how long the sub should write, without stopping. |
| Writing an Essay on Mistakes | In this type of punishment, the submissive partner must write an essay or reflection on their mistakes, either in general or concerning a specific scene. It generates feelings of introspection, submission, and humility. The writing exercise may be for a specific length of time or number of pages. It helps reinforce the submissive partner’s accountability and willingness to reflect on their actions. |
| Tedious Tasks | In BDSM, tedious tasks, such as requiring the submissive partner to clean a specific area of the dominant partner’s home or complete a specific chore repeatedly, can be used as punishment. The dominant partner may demand that the submissive partner complete the task within a specific time frame or to a certain standard. Tedious tasks can reinforce the submissive partner’s obedience to their Dom. |
| Cold Shower | A cold shower can be a punishment because it can cause physical discomfort and reinforce the submissive partner’s obedience to the dominant partner. The Dom may require the submissive partner to take a cold shower for a set time or after committing a specific infraction. |
| Forced Orgasm while Watching Vanilla/Gay/Disliked Porn | This type of punishment involves forcing the submissive partner to watch porn they dislike or find unappealing while being forced to orgasm. The dominant partner may control the type of porn being watched and require the submissive partner to orgasm quickly or repeatedly. More about forced orgasm here. |
| Facefucking | Facefucking can be used as punishment, especially for the submissive partner. The dominant partner will forcefully and aggressively insert their penis into the mouth of the submissive partner, causing discomfort or gagging. |
| Enema | As a form of cleansing or punishment for committing a specific infraction, the dominant partner may require the submissive partner to undergo an enema. |
What Are the Risks and Safety Precautions Associated with Unusual/Uncommon Punishments in BDSM?
Unusual punishments, like other BDSM activities, carry risks that can be fatal if not handled properly. Before engaging in any punishment play, clear communication and boundaries must be established. Both partners should also agree on a safeword indicating the end of the game.
Some safety precautions for unusual punishments include:
- Understanding the risks and potential consequences of the activity
- Begin slowly and gradually increase the intensity
- Choose and use a safeword or safesign
- Set clear boundaries and expectations (ultimately negotiate a BDSM contract for the scene or the entire BDSM relationship, find details here.)
- Using appropriate safety gear and equipment
- Respect each other’s limits by communicating throughout the activity regularly.
- Avoiding alcohol or drugs before or during play and understanding first aid procedures
Frequently Asked Questions:
Is It Appropriate to Impose Unusual Punishments on All BDSM Couples?
In BDSM, unusual punishments are not appropriate for all couples. Every person has their own set of desires, fantasies, and limitations. Before engaging in new activities or fantasies with your partner, ensure both parties are comfortable. Communication, trust, and respect for boundaries are essential when investigating BDSM activities, particularly those involving uncommon or unusual forms of punishment.
Can Unusual Punishments Have an Emotional Impact?
Maintaining emotional awareness during play and aftercare ensures both partners feel safe and supported. Unusual punishments, like any other BDSM activity, can have emotional consequences. Therefore, it is critical to communicate openly with your partner and to build trust. If necessary, reach out to friends in the BDSM community or even seek help from a qualified therapist or counselor if you are experiencing too many negative emotions after playing.
What Should I Do if The Punishment Is Excessive?
If a punishment exceeds your limits or becomes unsafe, use your safeword to stop play immediately. Talking openly with your partner about what went wrong and setting new boundaries is critical. Seek medical attention if necessary and allow time to process your emotions and feelings about the event.
Final Thoughts
Couples can experiment with new and creative forms of discipline and submission in a safe and consensual setting. In BDSM, unusual punishment brings excitement and variety to the game. First, however, clear communication and boundaries must be established, as well as understanding the risks involved and implementing appropriate safety precautions.