Have you ever felt like you were powerless over the misbehavior of your long-distance BDSM partner? If you’re in a long-distance BDSM relationship, disciplining them for misbehavior doesn’t have to be a hopeless cause. From the playful use of funishment to the varieties of punishment, each can be a great tool to help foster a strong and healthy routine BDSM relationship, no matter the distance.
BDSM long-distance punishments need you to leverage the technology available – webcam, video calls, and even remote sex toys – to creatively deliver punishment from a distance. You can make them strip down, spank themselves, wear a gag, eat from the floor, and more, and send you proof of compliance.
Get ready to take punishment to the next level with 13 creative and effective Dom-sub long-distance punishments guaranteed to make your partner more obedient – without requiring you to be physically together.
Reasons to Incorporate Punishments in a Long-Distance BDSM Relationship
With long-distance BDSM, there are some distinct benefits to incorporating punishments. For BDSM practitioners, punishments allow partners to show strength and dominance, even when they’re far away. It can also provide a sense of control and mutual understanding. Punishments also make partners feel connected and can serve as a way to test the strength of a long-distance relationship.
Another advantage of BDSM long-distance punishments is that they help maintain a sense of commitment and trust. Punishments can be a powerful reminder that partners are dedicated to making it work, even when far apart. Punishments can be used to reinforce positive behaviors and reinforce each other’s commitment to the relationship.
Punishments also provide a way to keep the BDSM dynamic alive. Long-distance BDSM can feel daunting for many practitioners, and punishments can help keep the spark in the relationship. Long-distance punishments also provide an opportunity to satisfy Dom’s need for structure and discipline, even if they can’t be present in person.
13 Highly Effective BDSM Long-Distance Punishments
- Instruct them to strip down and do 100 squats and other exercises while you watch via video chat to prove they’ve followed the instructions. Nothing beats the thrill of forced exercise-induced obedience, especially with you looking on!
- Command them to give themselves a thorough spanking with a belt for a specified period, sending you video proof while doing it. A little discipline goes a long way – let them feel the sweet sting of retribution while you observe. Note this punishment won’t work if your sub is a masochist. But we have many masochist punishment ideas here (7 Ways to Punish a Masochist and Get It Right).
- Require them to remain naked all day, sending you snaps and other visual proof as the hour’s tick by. Make them fully exposed as they bravely await your next command – surrender to their undressed state.
- Make them remain silent while they wear a gag, and then ensure they take pictures of themselves for you to view. Can they handle the challenge of enduring motionlessness with silence? Check your pics to find out.
- Task them with stuffing a used pair of underwear in their mouth and either taping it or using a string to secure it, photographing it to show you the evidence. No more speaking back – it’s time for humiliation with an upgrade!
- Order them to sleep on the ground with no pillow or blanket, and send you pictures of their setup afterward. A cold hard floor will make them rethink their bad behavior.
- Instruct them to bring themselves to the brink of orgasm, then immediately distance themselves from it (edging), requiring video proof that the process was carried out. Finally, striving for pleasure but yet getting nowhere – make them kneel in surrender and correct their wrongdoings. This punishment also works excellently for male subs. Check out more punishments dedicated to men in our article – Dedicated Punishments for Men in BDSM.
- Command them to eat their food directly from the floor using their mouth, then provide visual proof. Make them experience dining at the lowest level – and hopefully, they’ll be more obedient next time!
- Make them crawl around in a small area of your choosing for a specific time, providing video proof of how long they remained there (use the time-lapse function of their smartphone clever). Can they keep up with the challenge, or will they give up shortly after? You get to decide.
- Insist they secure themselves in a locking chastity device and refrain from touching themselves intimately, sending you video evidence that the device is in place. Say goodbye to pleasure – it’s time to keep them in line with discipline and order. Some more details about female chastity you will find in our article here.
- Task them with creating an art piece expressing their regret and remorse for the wrongdoing, then send you a picture of the finished product to prove it’s been completed. Nothing says repentance quite like a heartfelt piece of art.
- Make them stay up late into the night without sleep, then send proof that they have successfully lasted through the night (photo or video). Keep them awake and make them witness the sunrise – with no food or water allowed.
- Require your sub to use a remote electroplay device such as this Reach G – Portable Erection Vibrator from Love Distance while in a public space, subjecting them to shocks and other sensations as you control their pain remotely through an app. This long-distance punishment idea will give you the ultimate control to ensure proper behavior – and it’s bound to be a real thrill for both of you!
Rules for Long-Distance BDSM Discipline
If you are in or considering entering into a long-distance BDSM relationship, following the subsequent tips below will help ensure punishments and discipline remain effective and beneficial:
- Agree on boundaries: Before starting a long-distance BDSM relationship, discuss the limits you want to establish for the Dom-sub long-distance punishments. This is crucial to ensure both parties feel comfortable and secure with the rules.
- Establish a connectedness: When you have a long-distance BDSM relationship, creating a connection that can bridge the physical distance is essential. To achieve this, make sure you have plenty of time to talk and check in with each other regularly.
- Get creative with punishments: Just because you are not in the same physical space does not mean you have to be limited in the types of punishments you can choose. Get creative (10 Very Creative Punishments to Surprise Your Sub With) and use technology to create punishments that work for the long-distance couple.
- Be open and honest: In a BDSM relationship, honesty and communication are key. This is especially true for a long-distance BDSM couple. Don’t be afraid to talk about your needs, and be open to listening to your partner’s needs. This can help ensure that the long-distance punishments of BDSM remain consensual and enjoyed by both parties.
- Be patient: Punishment and discipline in a long-distance BDSM relationship can take time and patience. Don’t rush your punishments and remain consistent with both parties feeling comfortable with the process.
Prove Your Reach with These Long-Distance Punishments
No matter the distance, rest assured punishments will be. With these 13 BDSM long-distance punishments, you can ensure their compliance and submission even when miles away. From squat sets to belt spankings to hours of nudity and beyond, these BDSM punishers will have them regretting anytime they disobey – and they’ll learn an invaluable lesson. So, make them heed your call – test the reach of your authority with these 13 BDSM long-distance punishments. And remember that no BDSM long-distance punishment should be done if it’s not rational, safe, and practical.